Your ass is one of the most sensitive, erogenous, and sexy parts of your body. It can be stimulated in many ways to take you towards incredible orgasms. We're here to give you some tips so you can perform anal blasting like a pro: AKA finger fucking.
Finger fucking is just what it sounds like, but not exactly. It implies the insertion of a finger (or fingers) into the anus for sexual pleasure, but it's not something you can do just like that. It requires preparation, technique, and consent, but anyone with an anus can enjoy it: meaning, literally everyone.
Being fingered is not just for the bottoms. It is not just foreplay or a build-up for anal sex; it can be the main event during a sexual encounter or part of a solo play when you're alone.
Anyone can enjoy anal blasting. The anus has countless nerve endings that, when stimulated properly, will give you mouthwatering, knee bending, mindblowing sensations and can take you to the best orgasms you've ever experienced. If you have a penis, then you have a prostate (AKA P-Spot, AKA male G-Spot) which is the source of the most powerful orgasm a man can get.
I get there's this thing with "total tops" who won't let anything get near their precious bumhole but trust me when I say anal fingering will blow your mind. I'm going to talk from personal experience here: I'm a top, I don't enjoy having a penis up my butt most of the time because I don't find the sensation of being stretched as pleasurable; however, when my husband finger-fucks me, it just blows my brains, I cum gallons and see stars all around... it's amazing.
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So, if you're reading this because you want to convince your partner into letting you finger-fuck him, you need to have the "anal talk." Talk about it, and when he says "yes," start slow, don't just ram into his ass with your fingers as you see in porn. Never surprise him with a finger up his butt without asking about it first; it'll only make him tighten up. Here we'll give your a list of tips and tricks to make anal blasting the best experience for you and your partner.
1) Always use the best lube
Let's clarify: the anus is dry like the Sahara (not saying it like you have sand up there), so you need to make it wet whenever you want to insert something.
You can use spit since the fingers are not as big as a penis or a dildo. You can start by eating your man's asshole out until it's dripping in your saliva, and then start using your fingers. However, our best recommendation is not just to use spit for this task; always include lube.
Our best recommendation is to use a flavored lube or coconut oil to alternate between fingering and rimming. Coconut oil is super versatile and super accessible; besides, it's good for your skin and completely safe for your anus. On the other hand, you can get a flavored lube and make that ass taste like your favorite dessert.
If you're not into ass-eating (not judging here, but how can you not?), a high-viscosity silicone-based lube could be your best choice. This kind of lube lasts longer than others, which means you don't have to stop the fun to add more lube to that ass.
You'll need to have that bottle of lube close in case you need to add more anyway. Cover your finger in lube all the way down to the base and place some more on the entrance of the anus before penetration. Remember to go slow and let the one being fingered lead the action; you can start by breathing together to relax.
2) Hygiene is essential for health and mental peace.
When preparing for anal play, hygiene is a crucial step. It is a way to prevent accidents, infections, and stress during a sexual encounter. Hygiene for anal fingering is easier than you may think, and it comes to common sense; all parts involved need to be clean.
- Wash your anal area and hands with water and regular soap.
- If you're worried about your insides being squeaky clean, you can try using an anal douche.
- The one performing the fingering needs to have their nails nice and short. So trim those nails and file any sharp edges.
The one performing the fingering can use latex gloves or "finger cots" if they don't want to cut their nails or prefer a more "clean penetration." However, suppose you're going to use coconut oil. In that case, it can damage the latex for being a natural oil, so you better don't use them together.
Having neat hygiene will help the encounter be safe and more pleasurable. Cleaning the ass will keep fecal matter away from the hands (and possibly mouth and face) from the one stimulating the anus. Having lovely short fingernails or using latex will prevent anal tears that may hurt or get infected. The best part about this is that knowing you're clean and ready will take the stress away from your mind and help you relax, which is the most important thing to do when doing anal play.
3) Go slow but also go smart for the most manageable penetration.
We've told you before that you need to go slow at first to not hurt your partner. However, that doesn't mean you need to move like one of those sloths from "Zootopia." You need to do it smoothly and carefully, but helping that ass relax its muscles to let you in.
If you want to help that ass relax for you to put a finger inside of it, you can follow these steps with the best technique for anal fingering:
- Start by caressing the asshole by sliding your finger around it. Make circular movements around the entrance with a lubed finger. This will cover the opening with lube and create a sense of anticipation as you stimulate the nerve endings around that ass.
- Bend your fingertip as a way to catch the internal border of the external anal muscle. By caressing the anus, you'll start to make it relax, so maybe you'll feel the skin a little loose, but you're not getting in yet; just the tip.
- Once your fingertip is inside, gently press into the anal muscle as if you were trying to "pinch it" between your fingers. Press your digit to the anal muscle, and hold that pressure for around five seconds.
- After five seconds, press the fingernail side of your finger in the opposite direction without changing the orientation of your finger to their body. So, if you started pressing down with your digit, now press up with your fingernail or vice versa.
- Hold like that for another five seconds. Then go back to pressing the opposite side of the anus with the other side of your finger. You're slowly encouraging the anus to relax by doing this alternate pressure.
- As you press on one side or the other, start to slide a tiny bit every 2.3 times you change directions. Don't go deeper in immediately, and you'll slowly help that ass open up.
After doing all this, you may feel like there's a ring around your fingertip, and now it's time to help the internal anal sphincter muscle relax. This is different from what you did before, and it requires a different technique.
Don't go further in than the first joint of your finger yet. To help the internal muscle open up, you need to give it a little tickle with your finger. Picture tickling the tip of someone's nose; that's the kind of pressure and speed you need to apply. If the ass is ready for penetration, you'll feel it opening up after 30-45 seconds of doing this.
If you don't feel the sphincter loosing up, it's better if you don't force it. Leave it for a minute, take deep breaths together, and try it again once you feel like it.
4) Use the best techniques to give pleasure to the anus.
If you put a finger inside that ass, it's time to start moving it; that anus will not pleasure itself (necessarily). Don't rush it yet; we're still taking things slowly at the beginning, and there are many things you can do with just one finger.
Here are a few techniques you can try:
- Stiff your finger and press outward to massage the anal walls in different directions.
- Vibrate your hand, creating the sensation of a vibrator. You can also try holding a vibrating ring or bullet in your hand without inserting it while fingering your partner.
- Slowly slide your finger in and out. You can try gently twisting your finger as you do this.
- Use a come-hither movement with your fingers moving like trying to reach your partner's belly. This is the best technique to stimulate the prostate.
Once your partner is relaxed, it may be time to insert a second or even a third finger. For this, you'll need to slide your finger out, add some lube to the fingers and then go back in. Try using the same technique you did for inserting the first finger, alternating pressure in opposite directions. It may be easier this time as the asshole's muscles are relaxed, but it may not.
Remember that not everyone likes the same things, and pleasuring techniques may feel different for everybody. So, the best thing to do is an experiment to learn what you enjoy the most.
5) Take breaks to regroup.
It may happen that when you're at it, your partner's butt starts to tighten up. If this occurs, you can hold still to give him a moment to relax and get used to the sensation. If this keeps happening during the session, or he just cannot seem to relax, it may be a better idea to take a break.
Taking a break is great because it gives you a moment to breathe and regroup. You can take the chance to get more lube, stretch your hands or your body, and switch positions.
There might be a possibility that you're going too fast or that he reached his capacity. This break is a moment so you can communicate and understand what's happening. Don't ever push things; if the one being fingered says it's enough, then it is enough.
6) Anal fingering is a step to anal sex, but other steps are in the middle.
Anal fingering is a great idea as a preparation for anal sex. If you're going to put a penis or a dildo in an asshole, having a finger first is a perfect way to loosen up that bumhole. However, the jump from a finger to a penis might be a little too harsh.
If you're doing anal fingering and plan to go to anal sex afterward, try warming up that ass by inserting up to three fingers first. Make sure you're fully relaxed and open before switching to a penis.
7) Dirty talk can make communicating easier.
Having an open line of communication during anal play can be tricky, as stopping to ask how the other is feeling can ruin the mood. You need to communicate whatever's happening or whatever sensation you perceive, especially if it's not right. This is where dirty talk can work perfectly.
Make dirty talk part of the game. Let your partner know how bad you want to finger fuck his ass. Make him understand how bad you want him to penetrate you with two or three fingers. Make him beg for you to switch your fingers for your dick. Communication can be part of the sexy fun, not an interruption.
