10 Best Gay Sex Positions

Want to avoid boring hookup sex? It’s pretty much inevitable with apps like Grindr and Scruff, but maybe you want to keep that stud coming back for more. Well, I’ve got you covered!

Maybe you’re in a long-term relationship like me and you’re looking to keep the sex hot and heavy. Even the horniest of couples need to know some different positions even if it’s just to keep things fresh. Just because you aren’t single doesn’t mean you shouldn’t continue to experiment in the bedroom.

Keeping your sex life interesting is easy if you know the right moves. I’ve put together this steamy list of the 10 best gay sex positions.

But first! Let’s quickly chat about some gay sex positivity...

Shit happens, especially when you’re having anal sex. Bottoms can use an enema or douche to make sure their back door is clean, or they can simply use soapy water. Tops need to cool their jets and be understanding, you’re fucking a poop chute, know your place!

Safer sex is better sex, especially with strangers. Use condoms with water-based lube and make sure you’re regularly and consistently getting tested for HIV and other STIs.

The biggest one though is consent; you need it for every single sexual interaction. Both of you need to clearly give consent, and preferably in person.

Ok, we can get to the juicy bits now that that’s out of the way! Time to get educated.

1. Missionary

This needs to be modified a little for gay sex, but it’s just as common in the gay community as with the straights. In this position whoever’s bottoming will be on their back with their legs in the air. The top will enter him from this position, so you end up face to face. You get a lot of perks in this position, from deep penetration to kissing and necking. As the bottom, you can lock your top in place by wrapping your legs around him, you’ll both get a boost in leverage this way. It’s not super kinky or adventurous, but it more than gets the job done. This position is great if you’re pretty vanilla or inexperienced. I recommend a pillow under the bottom’s ass so they’re more comfortable and it gives easy access for the top to boot.

2. Doggy Style

Definitely a classic hit in the gay community. This sex position screams anonymous hookup, the top doesn’t get to see the bottom’s face, but he’s got a lot of control over the whole situation. Of course, the bottom can back that ass up, so it’s really a win-win. It can be the perfect position if you’re looking to explore the dominant and submissive sides of your relationship. Basically, the bottom gets on all fours and the top enters him from behind. I even change it up when I’m the top, I’ll start in a kneeling position, but I might also squat behind him, penetrating him this way opens up a few more angles which makes it really easy to milk his prostate with your throbbing cock. Highly recommend! The top might need some extra stamina here, but it’s a great sex position for basically any gay couple. You can also get a little rougher in this position, slap his ass and really pull him onto your cock.

3. Cowboy

This is a great position for when the top needs a break or the bottom wants to control the situation. This is a pretty ideal sex position as the bottom can basically pleasure themself on the top’s cock. The top lies on his back for this position and the bottom kneels or squats over his man-meat, the bottom also gets to control the angle of penetration and basically everything else. You can get some intimate moments in with kisses or nipple play because you’re facing each other. You can really hit your prostate hard in this position, so don’t explode too soon, but it’s a great position to cover the top in cum. Just because the top is laying down doesn’t mean he has nothing to do either. He can thrust into the bottom, even from this position, trust me, your bottom won’t mind! 

4. Reverse Cowboy

This is an obvious position given the previous, but it’s a good one nonetheless! It’s almost the same position, but the bottom faces away from the top. As a top, I love this position, I get to enjoy the view of my man’s muscles working away as he rides my cock, so I’m sure you’ll enjoy it too. This position can get pretty kinky too if you’re up for it. If the bottom leans back the top can help him lay back and choke him, kiss his neck, whatever you’re into. This will really test the top’s motion of the ocean, but trust me, it’s worth it.

5. The Bodyguard

If horizontal positions are getting boring, why not give a standing position a go? Both of you will have a greater range of motion, your hands are free for whatever you like. It’s a great position for shower sex and other cramped spaces. The bottom faces away from the top as he gets penetrated, as the bottom, get a leg up to help out so you don’t topple over. If you can’t tell I like choking, so this position frees up my hands or arms to wrap around his throat for a little extra pleasure. We definitely make use of this position when showering together isn’t just about saving water anymore or even just to fuck against a wall, it’s seriously hot and you can use your hands to explore each other’s bodies.

6. Pirate’s Bounty

Don’t let the boujee name fool you, this position isn’t complicated to get into at all. The bottom will lie on his back for this one and then lift one leg into the air. The top will penetrate from this position and the bottom can drape a leg over his shoulder. This position gives the top a lot of control for thrusting because you can pull your bottom’s leg into you for deep penetration. You’re even facing each other so you can enjoy some other activities on the side like making out… or, ya know, choking. You can switch legs up to hit different angles and find what works for you two. It’s a position that really plays out well for a dominant top.

7. Spoon fucking

Ok, maybe it sounds a little weird when you say it out loud, but in practice, it’s very intimate. Both of you will lay side by side with the top as the big spoon, he’ll enter the bottom as you’re lying next to each other. The bottom can shift his top leg forward or raise it in the air for deeper penetration, or the top can give a hand and hold the leg with his elbow for a little extra control. You’re in for a lot of body contact in this position, get into some pit licking or make out. It’s a great position if you’re looking to be intimately connected.

8. Suspended Congress

Not just a silly name, it’s a really adventurous position. It’s a bit of a challenge so it’s not for the faint of heart, it’s a little easier if the top is a regular at the gym and doesn’t hurt if the bottom is too. I’d recommend starting from the cowboy position and the top will sit up from here. The bottom wraps his hands or arms behind the tops head as he hooks his elbows under the bottom’s knees. Stand up from this position, it’s easier to have a wall close by to support the bottom’s back just in case. Once you get freestanding it’s an excellent cardio workout as the top pumps a load into the bottom. This definitely requires some physical strength, good balance, and trust. It’s also hot getting fucked in this position because you’re completely at the tops mercy. 

9. Arch

Not really a position for newbies, but it’s great for couples in a long-term relationship. The bottom will lay on his back and lift up his hips, keeping his feet under him. The top gets his pelvis into position under the bottom’s hips and enters from below. It’s easy to see that you’re in for a ton of prostate stimulation as the bottom, so enjoy! From here the bottom can relax onto the top and let him do the work or control the thrusting, depends on how dom he’s feeling. It’s definitely a position that requires strong, flexible back muscles. From the top’s perspective, this opens up a lot of physical exploration, your hands are freer than other positions too, so you can explore each other’s bodies.

10. Bumper Cars

This is an advanced position for the flexible couple. I don’t personally think it requires much physical fitness, at least for the bottom, but it’s definitely some different angles for the top to figure out. It’s an erotic position that is certainly unique to get into. The bottom gets into the same position as doggy style and the top matches that position but faces away from the bottom. From here, the top pushes his cock straight back to enter the bottom. Thrusting requires a bit of coordination, but you can ease things up if the bottom lays on his stomach. The top will then fuck his hole from an all-fours angle facing away from the bottom. This gives some serious prostate stimulation as the top’s cock tries to pull up into its natural position. It’s likely a position you haven’t tried so this one is worth exploring, for sure!

Some of these might not be new to you, but it’s a good reminder that you have more than one position in the bedroom. It’s a great idea to continually explore your partner and the things you enjoy together. If you’re single, I hope I’ve given you some new things to try out with a fuckbuddy or casual hookup!

Stay safe and get fucking already.