5 Essential Sex Toys To Up Your Mutual Masturbation Game
Mutual masturbation is far too underutilized as a stand-alone sexual technique in my opinion...
It's an incredible method for building intimacy, especially for new partners, an excellent low impact way to romp when you're not in the mood for the rigmarole of a full-blown fuck session, and an all-around fun activity for those times when you just want to switch things up a bit.
However, just like any sex act, if you don't have some way to keep it fresh, it gets a bit tedious. That's where sex toys come in! What's a sex toy for if not to add a little extra zing to your bedroom adventures? Mutual masturbation is no exception.
Why Is Mutual Masturbation So Great?
Before we get to the fun part, talking about toys, we should probably talk about reasons you should be mutually masturbating in the first place.
A lot of guys would rather just do the deed the old school way and have a good old fashioned fuck sesh and really don't see a reason they should have somebody else jerk them off when they can do that for themselves, probably better.
These guys have a very narrow view of what mutual masturbation can be...
Mutual masturbation is more than just a simple hand job - that's just called a hand job for a reason!
Good mutual masturbation should involve lots of bodily contact with all of your parts, can include oral sex, fingering, power dynamics, and all of the stuff that makes real-deal sex great - It just lacks the one aspect, penile penetration.
So, why mutual masturbation?
It's A Good Compromise
It's great for times when you are too tired or not in the mood for a full-on fuck sesh but you still want to have some fun.
Maybe your partner is in the mood but you are not. Maybe you've spent the day at the gym and your abs just can't handle the extra workout.
Whatever the reasons, it's perfect for those times when you don't want to commit to the full act but you still want to play.
It Builds Intimacy
Masturbation is usually something you do alone and is, therefore, a fairly private thing.
By letting each other in on how you please yourselves, you build trust and intimacy by letting your partner in on your own private little world.
It's a great way to open up to a new partner or learn things about a long-time companion you might not have realized otherwise. Which leads us to...
It's A Great Way To Experiment With New Ways To Pleasure One Another
Good mutual masturbation isn't a rush-job and it's important to take your time and explore.
This makes mutual masturbation an excellent opportunity to allow you and your partner to communicate more clearly to one another about what feels good and what feels "meh".
Who knows better than you what makes you pop?
Which brings us to the, ahem, meat of the matter - how to use sex toys to elevate your mutual masturbation game to a level beyond simple hand jobs and a bit fingering.
Here are the 5 toys you won't want to be without when it comes time for a bit of tandem hand'em with your man.
Mutual Masturbation Toys: The Big Five
5. Slippery Goodness
Good mutual masturbation will involve lots of skin-on-skin contact.
You're going to want to be rubbing your bodies against each other, keeping your hands busy wandering sensuously around your partner's body, and inserting digits and toys into some pretty sensitive areas.
For all of this to be pleasurable, you're going to want to have something to grease the wheels a bit...
The first thing you're going to want to have on hand is some good massage oil and since good sex will engage all of your senses, it's a good idea to use something that smells nice.
Scented massage oils, coconut oil, or shea butter are all excellent choices.
They offer sensational glide, smell great, and even have the added benefit of being great for your skin. They're a total win-win.
Unfortunately, all of those things I just mentioned are oil-based and will not play well with your toys or condoms. That means it's also important to have a good water-based lube on hand for when you're going to get freaky with the toys.
Water-based lubes are compatible with almost any toy out there, so you'll never have to worry about whether or not you are going to be damaging your toys by reaching for the wrong lube when you should be concentrating on your partner.
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4. Light Restraints
Restraints are great for a couple of reasons. First of all, they allow you to experiment with denial play.
You can lightly restrain your partner and pleasure yourself in front of them...
Watching you get off while they are powerless to even touch themselves can be a great way to drive your guy over the edge. Just be sure that you take care of him, one way or another, before you're done playing to keep it fun for both of you. Just don't get mauled when you let them off the chain!
The second reason a little bit of light restraint can be fun is that you can use it to build trust and play with power roles.
Being tied up and powerless while your partner is working your prostate with a good stimulator and tickling your cock with a premium stroker is a sure-fire recipe for a mind-blowing orgasm, not to mention being the perfect way to explore power dynamics in the bedroom.
3. Strokers
Unless you've been living under a rock for the past decade, you're probably familiar with toys like Fleshlights or Tenga Eggs.
Just in case, these toys are specifically designed to offer maximum stimulation and pleasure to the male member by offering a soft, squishy, place to put your penis.
These toys are often designed with special textures and materials that offer extremely life-like sexual sensations.
For mutual masturbation, I like to use them in concert with prostate stims, butt plugs, or dildos to offer my partner a complete sensory experience.
Mutual masturbation isn't a race, it's important to take it slow...
So, don't just start jacking away on your guy's wang, take it nice and slow, build that orgasm by alternating between the anal toy and the stroker.
Take your man to the edge of climax and pull back time and time again until he just can't take it anymore.
There are a number of great strokers on the market from the deceptively simple Tenga Egg, which is an obsessively designed, disposable, compact silicone sleeve that comes in a variety of textures for a very reasonable price, to luxury strokers with all sorts of features such as suction, rotation, and even heated sleeves.
Even a basic stroker is an indispensable mutual masturbation tool because it can do things to your man's cock your hand could only dream of.
2. Prostate Stimulation
Even though you're not going to be getting in there with your penis, it's important not to ignore prostate stimulation when having a little mutual masturbation fun.
The mind-bending deliciousness of a nice, full-body prostate orgasm is a sensation that shouldn't be left out of any good bedroom session.
As mentioned above, these toys are best if used in tandem with a good stroker and lots of lube.
(Rocks-Off Quest Prostate Massager)
I like to start off by gently fingering my guy or using a vibrating toy to help get him loosened up and then start working his prostate before I start in with the stroker.
Massage his prostate and start to build that sexual tension a little, occasionally stimulating his balls and shaft, before you go for the full blitz with the tandem prostate stim stroker combo.
Again, mutual masturbation is about the journey, not the destination, so take it nice and slow and be sure to build that climax gradually.
When it comes to choosing a good prostate stim, I look for one with a well-thought-out, ergonomic design that is precisely calibrated to hit the P-spot with minimal effort.
I also like a prostate stim with a vibe function for that little bit of added sensory razzle-dazzle they provide.
That's just me, though. You and your partner probably know better what you each look for in a good toy. So, don't take my word for it- experiment!
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1. Cock Rings
As I've already mentioned a few times, mutual masturbation is all about the slow burn.
For this reason, having some good cock rings on hand will help you go the distance by maintaining your erections and they also add an additional layer of sensitivity when you wear them.
I am particularly a fan of vibrating cock rings because that extra buzz offers unbeatable sensation without having to do anything more than simply wear it.
Along the same lines as cock rings, I'm also a big fan of ball stretchers because they keep your balls all nice and bundled together.
This creates extra sensation in addition to making your balls easily accessible while playing.
Not to mention, that awesome tugging feeling they give your balls when you finally blow your load is one of my favorite feelings in the world.
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Whether you're looking for a new way to play, a way to build intimacy in your relationship, find a fun way to experiment with new ways to pleasure your man and gain a better understanding of what makes them tick sexually, or just a great way to try out some new swag from the sex shop, mutual masturbation is definitely the way to go.
Now get out there and get some hands-on experience and see what you've been missing!
