Gay Truth Or Dare: From The Safe To The Sexy

Whatever happened to Truth or Dare? When I was really young, it was a great way to pass the late night hours with friends at a big sleepover and when I was in my teens, it helped break down more than a few barriers on the path of my newly awakened sexuality...

The first time I ever kissed another boy was during a game of Truth or Dare and I'll never forget the weird sexual energy and palpable awkwardness of that moment. It was a defining moment in my life, and it never would have happened without this silly party game. 

I was reminiscing about these facts earlier this week, and it hit me. There is something more to this game than a simple, childish pastime. There is a strange sort of power that this game has. The power to break the ice, the power to give yourself permission to say things you would never say,  break out of your comfort zone in a safe way, and even the power to connect with a new partner or add some razzle-dazzle to an old relationship that's gotten a bit flat.

Now, that's an awful lot of pressure to put on a childhood game, I guess, but I really do think there is something to it. Even beyond all that high-flying stuff I just said about it, Truth or Dare is still a great way to inject a little excitement into intimate gatherings of friends.

No matter how you look at it, I think it's time we took another look at the game through the eyes of adults. I'm breaking it up into two sections, one section for non-sexual ideas that are more appropriate for gatherings of friends, and one for couples or groups who plan to get more than a little physical.

Tame Truths

Let's start off with some tame truths to get the ball rolling. These are ideas for questions to ask your friends or partner that shouldn't be overly controversial. Some of these questions will, of course, be a bit sexual in nature, but they shouldn't be too over-the-top for a group of close friends or a party of open-minded strangers.

Remember, this is a game and the point is to have fun. You're looking for mildly embarrassing here, not hurtful. The point is to spark conversation, not arguments, so try to keep it light!

• How do you feel about group sex?
• Have you ever been busted for a petty crime? If so, what was it?
• Describe the worst date you've ever been on.
• What is your most embarrassing sexual experience and why?
• Where you a weird kid? If so, why?
• What is the biggest lie you've ever told and got away with?
• How often do you jerk off?
• What is the stupidest thing you've ever done to get laid?
• What is the most shameful song on your playlist?
• Would you sleep with someone in this room?

Tame Dares

I don't know how they rolled where you are from but where I grew up, we would all write down dares on little slips of paper and put them into something to be drawn when you chose dare. I like this method because it cuts out some of the personal friction that can get caused by someone taking it personally when someone else dares them to do something that they'd really rather not. You can't argue with fate!

Here are a few good dares for casual gatherings of adults. Again, the point is to embarrass the other person, not alienate them or make them feel attacked. Try to make dares that will put a person just outside of their comfort zone without pushing them too far. That's the secret of a good dare.

• Take a body shot off the person to your right.
• Let the person to your left make a Facebook post on your timeline.
• Show us your world famous twerking method!
• Adopt an Italian accent until your turn comes around again.
• Sing like you are alone in the shower.
• Let a volunteer from the group give you a hickey on your neck.
• Do the best impression of your "O Face" while staring the person to your left directly in the eyes.
• Demonstrate your favorite sexual position using a piece of furniture.
• Demonstrate your oral technique using the finger of the person to your right as a prop.
• Demonstrate your flirting technique on someone in the group.

Sexy Truths

Truth or Dare is a great way for any number of people to break the ice sexually. I don't know about you, but it's pretty fucking rare that there isn't some level of awkwardness at the very start of any group sex encounter I have ever had. Truth or Dare is a great way to get the ball rolling.

It's also a surprisingly effective tool for couples. If entered into with the right outlook, it can be an amazing way to break the ice about person kinks and preferences in a relatively safe environment.

The key to good sexy truths is to never ask a question you don't really care to hear answered. If you ask your partner how many dudes he has blown and aren't prepared for the possibility of him answering with some astronomically high number, you might want to ask something else.

• What do you think about most when you masturbate?
• Describe your ultimate sexual fantasy and how it would play out in an ideal world- Be graphic.
• What is your most secret kink?
• Have you ever fucked someone much older or younger than you? What was the difference in age?
• If you could only watch one genre of porn for the rest of your life, what would it be?
• What's the highest number of times you've jerked off in a single day?
• Have you ever thought of trying out *blank*? Fill in the blank with a chosen kink.
• Top, bottom, or vers?
• What's the craziest thing you've ever put in your ass?
• Have you ever given someone a mercy fuck? Describe the scenario and why you did it.

Sexy Dares

Ok, now for the really fun stuff. Truth or Dare in a sexual situation is the perfect tool to break down barriers and introduce new activities into the mix in a way that side-steps some of the awkwardness of suggesting them outside of a relatively consequence-free context. After all, you're supposed to get nasty with your sexy dares, you can't be blamed for that!

Having said that, like all of the rest of these suggestions, don't get too crazy unless you know that your partner or partners are totally down for some high-octane freakiness! Here are a few suggestions to get your creative juices flowing.

• Get me hard using only your voice.
• Work my prostate until I blow.
• Give me a slippery handjob. If in a group, give me a slippery handjob while blowing another guy.
• You have to orally pleasure me wherever I point to on my body for the next ten minutes. If in a group, have someone else pick the places.
• Let me film you blowing me or film me blowing you.
• Take two cocks at once. This one is obviously only good for groups.
• Show me your favorite porn vid and let me fuck you while we watch it.
• Do *blank*. Fill in the blank with your favorite kink.
• Tell me your most secret kink and let me do it for you.
• You have to do whatever I say for the next 20 minutes, no exceptions.

General Tips

There are a few things you can do to make the game a little more enjoyable for everyone involved. Here are a few ideas to make the whole thing go a bit more smoothly.

1. Keep it Upbeat
2. Don't be petty
3. Instead of thinking up dares and questions on the fly, have everyone write down a number of suggestions for truths and dares and place them in something from which they can be drawn as needed.
4. In the case of Truth or Dare with sexual partners, respect the other person's boundaries and always try to bear in mind what you know about their limits before asking a question or making a dare.
5. If you're playing with strangers, try to read the room a bit and navigate accordingly.
6. In the end, the most important thing to remember is that you are trying to get to know each other, have a little fun, and keep things upbeat. Now, I dare you to go out and get a game going as soon as possible!