If You Like It, Then You Better Put a Finger in It: 10 Tips for Butt Play

Here are 10 tips for Butt Play.

1. Keep your digestive tract on track. 

There are lots of things that can ease anal sex and make it better for each partner to enjoy. Consume plenty of veggies, fruits, and foods that are high in fiber. Drinking plenty of water throughout the day helps as well. Both will aid you in your ability to take a successful poo prior to anal sex. The more solid your poop, the less of a mess you’ll have to clean up later beforehand. 

Consuming enough food and water is pivotal to sustaining and maintaining a healthy digestive tract. It’s also just the healthiest way to live—eating right and staying hydrated—which translates to living longer and being able to experience plenty of butt sex into your old age! Drink extra water and consume those high-fiber foods like it is going out of style.

2. Douche it now, douche it good. 

Douche out that shit just like you should. Go into any anal sex experience with the utmost confidence. The best way to ensure you don’t take your partner on a trip to brown town is by douching it out prior to engaging in anything anal. Cleaning out your hole is an essential part of being a bottom, especially if you know that there is going to be a big dick going up into your backside. You don’t need one of those cartoon fire hoses shooting volumes and volumes of water into your ass to get it clean. A simple one, two step of using an appropriate douche bulb should have your muddy waters running clean in no time. 

We recommend the Nexus Douche Pro. Made with body-safe rubber and plastic, this 11.16 oz douche bulb with a curved nozzle and 360 degree cleaning tip will have you feeling squeaky clean from the inside out.

3. If you like it, then you better put a finger in it. 

No one ever just jumps into the ocean, a lake, swimming pool, or body of water without first sticking their toes in first. Why not going into anal sex with the same mindset and ideology. Before diving tongue deep into a guy’s rectum, tease it and coerce it with a little finger action.

A finger can open up the gateway to his soul (his hole) and provide your partner with a brief, limited introduction as to what is to cum later. Fingering your man is a great way to build up that sexual tension, getting his insides more and more warmed up to the thought of getting dicked down by you. 

One or two fingers caressing and tickling his P-spot can prepare your guy for the best part: penetration by your other digit.

4. Lube is the groove. 

An asshole is not a vagina that self lubricates and gets wetter the more you play with it. Unfortunately for us boys, some extra ASSistance with some lubricants other than our tongues and saliva. For some of us, just a little bit of spit goes a long way. But if you want to guarantee to not tear up your man’s insides with your cock, the courteous thing to do is to utilize some lube beforehand. You both want the experience of butt fucking and butt play to be as enjoyable for each other as possible. So, squirt some lubricant on the end of your dick, and use your fingers to glide some of the slick wet stuff over and inside your man’s asshole. 

Try some water-based Gun Oil H20 or Pjur Basic Water Based Lubricant. Both are excellent water-based lubricants that won’t mess with condoms or silicone-based toys.

5. Lick it first. 

Foreplay is the bomb, and eating a guy’s butt leads him to build up allotted time having his back side pleasured. Instead of just lubing up your cock and shoving it inside of him without warning, spread your man’s cheeks and take in all of his ass with your face and tongue. Tasting your man’s hole and eating his ass is a great stimulant builder for you, allowing your cock to get harder and harder, swelling with excitement and blood, ready to pummel his booty any minute. 

While tossing your man’s salad may be more enjoyable for you than it is for him, you’ll both be excited when your rock hard man meat does make the inevitable plunge into his rectum.

6. Slow and steady, Mr. Hare. 

Gay sex should never be a race. Men already have the stereotypical reputation of being two quick to get off during sex, and your bottom will thank you for not cumming too quickly. Nothing like making him spend an hour cleaning out his corn hole to then turn around and only give him 5 minutes of pleasure. 

Slow it down, son, and take your time with your partner. If that means extended making out time, then so be it. Foreplay for longer? Go for it! Whatever you can do to make your sex last longer, the more intense your sex life is going to be. Slow the experience down and take your time to savor each moment with butt play.

7. Toys for all the boys. 

Whether or not you are new to the butt play scene, a great way to get acclimated to anal play is with some fun toys to shove up your ass. In 2021, there is a dildo, plug, and toy for every need or walk of life. From small, introductory level plugs and P-spot stimulators, to fisting size dildos and beyond, your ass can be treated to a plethora of fun, depending on how much you are willing to try and take. 

The “go big or go home” adage does not apply here: sometimes the best toys for your ass are the small ones that just tickle your insides just right. So, it is better to start small and work your way up to bigger sizes—or don’t. Find your tried and true great anal sex ass stimulator and go with that one from now on. Anal sex is meant to be an exciting, erotic experience. Don’t get caught up on what is getting you off, as long as it is getting you off.

8. Keep in mind that the ass is just another part of the body and a piece of your man’s puzzle. 

Just because it is an ass, doesn’t mean your sex isn’t beautiful and can’t be romantic. To some of us, the sight of two men getting it on is just a wonderful and gorgeous vision of romance and lust. To others: it’s a fuck fest. 

Don’t let our porn-obsessed/warped brains trick you into thinking anal sex can’t be wonderful and romantic. Yes, it is an ass that you are playing with, but that doesn’t mean your sex can’t be just as cute and romantic as our heteronormative counter parts have portrayed their sex lives as. Butt play can be just as sensual as any other facet of gay sex.

9. Encourage an open dialogue with your partner and make sure the receptive one is the party communicating the most. 

Anal sex is only enjoyable if the partner receiving the stimulation is enjoying the experience. A top can stick their dicks in practically anything and still get off, but this is not the case with the passive partner in the butt play situation. Encouraging open conversation with regard to what they are feeling and how, and listening to their concerns and needs will always lead to a better experience for the both of you. 

If you feel like you need a safe word, create a phrase or saying you can use to halt the experience if it isn’t 100% desirable. Remember, as the bottom, you are in control. Establish those limits and communicate with your boo what feels great and what techniques can be left by the side of the road.

10. Practice makes perfect. 

It is highly encouraged of anyone looking to up their butt play game to try anything out on their own, in the privacy of your own home and bedroom. For those that live with a partner, take your self sexing into the bathroom for some one on one time with yourself. The more acclimated you are and familiar you are with your own body, the more likely you are going to be to want to experiment and let loose with a partner during butt play. 

Remember, not everyone is going to exit the flood gates an anal sex champion and expert. For some, it takes years to master the art of total anal satisfaction, and for others, just a few rounds of experimentation before they are ready to continue a certain butt play practice. Everyone, including their bodies, is different from the next person. A little trial by error/success will help you become more aware of your body and what it needs to get off and feel fulfilled through some butt play.