To wank, jack off, touch yourself, practice onanism, toss yourself off, practice self-abuse, and many others are ways to name masturbation: a healthy practice almost everybody does at least once in their lives. But are we doing it right
Yeah, I know, if you can't touch yourself properly, then what could you do right? What I mean is that there's always room for improvement, even when we talk about beating your meat. Most of us started masturbating as soon as we hit puberty (some of us even earlier on), so you may have picked a favorite technique to touch yourself. Still, like with partnered sex positions, you'll see jerking off can benefit from variety.
Masturbating brings multiple benefits, from reducing stress to preventing prostate cancer, and finding ways to make it even better for you is always a good idea. There's so much we can get and learn from masturbation, so before we get to the tips (and gadgets) to improve your self-love game, let's break down all about jacking off.
What's considered masturbation?
You might not need us to explain it to you, but you cannot be too informed.
Masturbation consists of the act of self-pleasuring yourself by stimulating or touching your penis and sometimes your testicles, nipples, and other erogenous zones of your body, usually to the point of orgasm or ejaculation for the simple purpose of sexual pleasure.
Even though it is usually an intimate performance, it can also be used as part sexual activity with a partner (or multiple partners). If done successfully, all the involved can experience a new range of sensations that cannot be reached independently. Doing it with others can influence intimacy, for it is such a personal activity.
Masturbation, what is it good for? Absolutely everything!
You might not want to overdo it, but jacking off somewhat regularly brings multiple benefits for your body, mental health, and even sexual performance -apart from the expected orgasm after having a good time-. Here's a list of advantages you can get from beating your meat every once in a while.
1) It makes your body relax
Masturbating relieves stress and improves sleep and mood, as it releases endorphins, dopamine, and oxytocin into your bloodstream at orgasm. So the moment you cum, it is like you take a shot of these magical hormones that make you feel relaxed and happy.
So, next time you're feeling stressed or anxious, or you can't sleep no matter how hard you try, go with the most natural remedy. Beat your meat until those natural chemicals start circulating through your body and you feel chill AF.
2) Helps with dealing with sexual dysfunction issues
If your brave soldier has trouble standing firm, jerking off regularly can help with that issue. Erectile dysfunction is something that makes many men feel self-conscious. While there are cases that'll require medical treatment, beating your meat can be a quick fix as it'll make you last longer.
Doctors recommend masturbation to help with premature ejaculation as well. Strengthening the orgasm muscles with Kegel exercises and then training your body by masturbating is a great way to help your mind connect with your body and help you control it better.
3) It'll help you strengthen your self-esteem
Some men want to lose weight, some want to build muscle, and some men feel they're not hot enough and that they won't be unless they reach a specific (usually impossible) body goal. Those insecurities can flourish when you're naked with someone else, but masturbating can help fight them.
Jerking off can help you become more in touch with your body, both literally and figuratively, as it makes your mind connect with your body. When your mind and body are connected, you can experience a more powerful pleasure and positively see your body.
Let me quote Mama Ru to say, "If you can't love yourself, how in the hell are you going to love somebody else?"
4) It'll help you communicate better with your partner
Picture this: You're in sexy-time with your man, and you need him to do "this thing with his mouth" for you to reach the amazing "O," but you don't know how to explain it to him. Have you ever been in that position? Then fear no more as jerking off can help you address those things more effectively.
As masturbating is not just "stroking your dick," it can help you identify which parts of your body are more erogenous and sensitive. By doing it regularly, you'll know where and how you need to be touched to get aroused enough for you to cum like a fountain.
5) It helps you build a long-term relationship with a healthy life
Considering the previous benefits, this one is not a surprise. It'll help you build a robust sex life that'll be good for you AND your partner. It's good for your heart, for your libido, and it can also be some kind of an arm-workout if you think about it.
Furthermore, masturbating often helps you get rid of toxins built up in the urethra and reproductive organs. As beating your meat helps clean up the pipes, it is a great way to prevent, for example, prostate cancer.
6 Masturbation techniques you'll enjoy
Well, this is what you came for, right (pun intended). While you can still do it by just stroking it like you always do, here are some things you can try to make it an even more pleasurable act.
1) Take it slow
Sometimes you just want to whip it and get done with it to relieve your tension and get going with your day; that's not bad, but it can become an unconscious habit. When you get used to rushing to orgasm, it translates into sex with a partner, where you just don't allow yourself to experience every sensation.
Suppose you always rush to orgasm because it's, you know, "the final goal." In that case, you'll be training your body to respond quickly to sexual stimulation, which can lead to premature ejaculation.
You need to calm down and slow down. Take time to explore your body and understand how it responds to pleasure, and build arousal to the point of orgasm.
2) Include your balls!
Although they are the ones who produce all the magic, testicles are the most neglected body part. Give your balls some love and affection; caress them, rub them, pull them gently, discover what feels good for you.
Don't be afraid to touch your balls; when you get comfortable with the sensations, you'll also be with the idea of someone else playing with them.
3) Fuck that hand!
If you would typically just stroke your dick with your hand, try this out: Fucking your hand with your dick. Yeah, it doesn't sound so fun or sexy, but doing this is an easy way to approximate the feeling of actually fucking a natural orifice.
To do this technique, you can lube your hand and twist it so your thumb is against your belly button. Then, grab your penis and move your pelvis to thrust your own hand. If this is not enough for you, you can always get yourself a male masturbator sex toy (we'll get to using toys very soon).
4) Edging
Many men try this technique to overcome premature ejaculation. Still, it can help anyone trying to get more control of their orgasm reflex. It consists and stopping stroking when you feel you're close to cumming, and then starting again after a couple of minutes.
This technique also mimics a real sex encounter, as your dick will not be getting all the attention all the time; ideally, you'll be giving your attention to someone else's dick.
Edging, or the "stop-and-start" technique, helps you get to know your body's levels of arousal, as you'll start seeing how it reacts. You'll get familiar with the signals it sends when you're reaching a certain level of arousal until you're on that point where you feel cum traveling from your balls and releasing in a beautiful ejaculation.
If you learn how and when to stop before there's nothing to do against the urge to cum, then you'll be one step closer to fully controlling your orgasm reflex.
5) Play with your frenulum
If you think your balls are neglected, wait until you meet this small and sensitive part of your penis. The "frenulum" is just the fancy name for the little piece of skin that connects your foreskin (if you're uncut) to your penis glans. You can massage this area with some lube or even precum and discover even more new sensations. You need to be very gentle, or you'll only hurt yourself; this is a very sensitive part.
6) Use toys
Even if masturbating sounds as simple as taking your dick out and stroking it until you cum, including toys in this activity can make it so much better. Don't forget to use a lube that is compatible with the toy's material. Here are some toys you can try:
- A cock ring: I'll make your erection last longer, and if you get one that vibrates, it'll bring incredible sensations for you (and your partner).
- A fleshlight: One of the most popular toys for men who want a closer sensation to actual sex; you can even get one shaped like your favorite porn star's asshole!
- A masturbator: These little gadgets not only do the job for you and even warm up to mimic body temperature; some of them also mimic the sensations of a blowjob.
- A prostate massager: If you want to have an even more intense orgasm, you can try using one of these to boost the experience by culminating with a full-body orgasm.
7) It's the climb
Experts suggest you take your time to examine all the sensations you get during the process, from how your hand feels to how fast or slow you prefer to go. Take a breath and enjoy every part of it.
Masturbating can be a way to get more in touch with your sensations, so take your time to learn how your body feels when you do one thing or another and what's going on when you're about to cum. Ejaculation can be the final goal of all this, but it doesn't need to be all about it; as Miley said, "It's not about how fast you get there... or what's waiting on the other side, it's the climb".
