The Ultimate Gay Male Masturbation Guide

Masturbation is something we’ve been doing since our dicks got hard for the first time. It then becomes a habit that sticks with us for our lifetime. Turns out, it’s also pretty healthy for you. It reduces stress, reduces your risk of prostate cancer, you can even use it as a sleep aid since guys tend to get pretty relaxed after orgasm.

You’ve probably beaten around the whole bush so to speak, but have you shifted up the technique you learned as a kid? I know I definitely learn a new thing or two from porn and from previous hookups. Almost exactly like regular sex, masturbation has a lot of little nuances to try.

If you’re looking for new techniques to try, then keep reading this ultimate gay male masturbation guide.

Let’s define male masturbation first

It’s basically when a guy takes advantage of his own erogenous zones to get off. You can use any combination of your dick, balls, nipples, and basically any other spot you can reach that turns you on.

It doesn’t have to be a solo experience either. My partner and I, among many other couples and hookups alike, engage in mutual masturbation. Either because anal play is just not on the table or maybe it’s just too hot to work up that much of a sweat. Whatever the reason, it definitely doesn’t have to be something you do alone in the bathroom.

It’s a really and truly effective tool for building up your endurance and sexual performance in the bedroom by helping you last longer and giving you more understanding of your orgasm. Masturbating once a day keeps a lot of systems in your body healthy, plus it helps relieve mild anxiety!

What can you try while masturbating?

The possibilities are almost endless. If you’re curious or maybe not so creative, I’ve got a few techniques that will make you want to savor every stroke of your cock.

Go slow

Too often we rush things, this basically prepares you for premature ejaculation when you do want to last longer, i.e. with a partner. Get exhilarated by touching sexually stimulating areas like your nipples, you could even lick your armpits for that musky, dirty scent.

You really just need to slow down, there’s no point in rushing. Practice mindfulness while masturbating to be truly present and alert to all the stimulation you provide yourself. This way, instead of just rushing for the stress relief, you’re still getting that ease while working on your endurance. 

Edging, the stop-and-start technique

The practice of resisting a full orgasm has obvious implications outside your solo masturbation time. Edging is when you work yourself up close to orgasm but then stop before you release. You then start up again and repeat until you can’t resist any longer. This keeps the pleasure going whether you’re solo or with a partner, and gives you a more intense orgasm, too!

This is also something you can do to work on premature ejaculation, but it’s just as valuable for guys who already have good control over their ejaculation. You can even practice this with a male masturbator to really gain more control for when you’re doing the deed. 

You’re prolonging that sense of orgasm, the feeling of your load getting ready to launch from your prostate and balls. The longer you can endure this sense of pleasure the longer you’ll stay hard and able to continue pleasuring yourself. If you keep at this practice, you’ll be able to have full control over your ejaculation and level of arousal during any sexual activity.

Play with your balls

Your balls are often neglected in any sexual activity, but they are part of the reason you’re even going to cum. You can squeeze and stretch them; you can even envision or have your partner do that for you. It’s actually possible to ejaculate through just stimulating your testicles. Touching them in time with the strokes of your cock will give you an easy boost in pleasure. 

The twist and screw

Instead of just stroking up and down your cock like a mad man you can incorporate some wrist action for different stimulation. Get your cock lubed up if it isn’t already and stroke as you normally would, then start twisting your hand around your cock as you make each pass. I find this needs a good slick lube to really work.

You can try this with a masturbation sleeve too, and even while giving your man a blowjob.

Explore your glans

This might be a bit more complicated if you’re uncut like me, but it all starts by pulling your foreskin back and away from the head of your cock. Where your head flares out, the edge of your glans is incredibly sensitive. Try rubbing your thumb there at the same time you stimulate your frenulum with your fingers - it’s that piece of skin that connects to your foreskin on the underside of your cock. Don’t worry, cut guys can enjoy this too!

Your glans is extra sensitive, and you’ll notice just how much it stimulates your arousal when you start seeing the precum oozing. I use this precum and lube to continue this pleasure, ok I lick my fingers too for that sweet taste. 

The best toys for masturbation

Stroking your cock with your hand can get a little dull after decades of masturbating this way. Sex toys aren’t just for ladies, and men are endlessly innovative when it comes to sexual pleasure. There are a ton of toys and other fun things on the market that you can use to enhance your masturbation experience.

Lube

Straight up, nothing beats lube as the ultimate add-in for masturbation. It helps your hand go through all the motions you want it to while slicking up your fingers for a little anal play too! Even if your uncut lube can still enhance the experience. Your cock will glide through your hand or hands and allow for more unique stimulation.

Cock rings

Cock rings can sound really intimidating. Especially when you’re looking at the cold hard steel ones, but that doesn’t have to be the case. Check out a stretchy silicone cock ring and you’ll never look back! A cock ring can help you stay hard for round 2, 3, 4… because it traps blood flow in the shaft of your cock. You’ll be rock-hard and have a fuller erection with juicy veins throbbing with blood. It definitely gives a more unique experience while masturbating and when paired with lube, you’ll feel the veins shift in your hand as you pleasure yourself. Just don’t leave it on for more than 30 minutes.

Male masturbators

The iconic Fleshlight is the one most gives think of when looking for masturbation sleeves. These so-called ‘pocket-pussies’ give the sensation that you’re experiencing a real orifice like a mouth or ass. Fleshlight tends to have larger sleeves, so if you tend to bottom out other masturbators give them a shot. You won’t get the distracting bump at the end of the toy and you’ll be able to fuck it balls deep.

Vibrators

A dildo is a dildo is a dildo, but a vibrator is your own personal sex slave. A vibe can do all the things a regular dildo does but with the added bonus of waves of pleasurable vibrations. You can use them for anal play and get deep stimulation that way or you can keep things on the surface and see if your other erogenous zones enjoy the stimulation. I love to firmly press the head of my favorite vibrator just behind my balls - it’s called your perineum, but you might know it as the taint. This area has a ton of nerve endings and the vibrations transfer into your cock for even more pleasure.

What good is masturbation?

Well, aside from being delightfully pleasurable, I could go so far as to say orgasmic… masturbation has a number of health benefits. Both physical and psychological can be derived from taking care of business. You can use it to overcome many sexual issues like premature ejaculation, but there are many other scenarios too.

Use it to improve communication with your man

You’ll start to learn exactly what works for your cock best through masturbation. So, when you’re with your man and things aren’t going well you can give him a bit of direction. When you start to realize what really works and what doesn’t work for you, then you’ll be able to better communicate your desires in the bedroom. If he isn’t stroking right, there’s no shame in teaching him a new thing or two.

It can boost your self-esteem

Most of us gays have insecurities, whether we have shredded bodies or beautiful faces, almost everyone has something about their body they don’t love. Maybe you wish your chest was more muscular or your nipples were smaller, body image issues suck. Oddly, masturbation can help with it all. When you start developing a connection to your body it will help you feel more aligned with your being. You’ll see value in your whole person because you’re connecting your body with pleasure. 

It’s a great relaxant

We all get a little more chill after we’ve launched a load, so it makes sense that masturbation is a great relaxation technique. If you’re stressed out or upset, you can shift your mood with an erotic self-pleasing moment. Dopamine and oxytocin get released into your bloodstream as soon as you orgasm, these feel-good hormones give a hell of a high, relaxing you for some time after orgasm.

It can help ED

If struggling to reach full mast is the name of your game, you might become, or maybe you already are, self-conscious about your ability to perform. Some men experience medical erectile dysfunction, but for those with psychological ED, masturbation can help prove to yourself that you can in fact get hard and get off. It can even help with premature ejaculation. Maybe anal sex is very stimulating for you, if that’s the case then try masturbating a little bit in advance. You’ll notice you’re able to last longer and that you don’t feel the need to cum when penetrative play is just getting good. 

It actually keeps you healthy

Keeping your sex drive up and regular is not a bad thing, especially for the lover in your life. Giving yourself that extra attention through masturbation can help keep up your sexual fitness that’s good for your libido, and even your heart! If you want to stretch it, you could even consider it an arm workout. It has the power to prevent prostate cancer because you’re essentially flushing out any toxins in your reproductive organs and urethra every time you blow your load.

Thanks for coming to my Ted t- I mean ultimate guide on gay male masturbation. I seriously love jerking off and I know you do too, but now we all have several reasons to keep stroking our meat well into old age!