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Put A Ring On It!: 7 Tips For Cockring Beginners

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[Updated February 26, 2020]

Of all of the sex toys available on the market today, cockrings are probably the simplest in terms of accessibility and ease of use...

A properly worn cockring has many physical benefits like harder, longer lasting erections but there are also less tangible benefits to wearing a cockring. For one, there is a feeling of confidence that comes with sporting a cockring that definitely translates into hotter sex for both you and your partner.

Another less obvious benefit of cockrings is that they just look damn sexy.

I don't know what it is, but there is just something about them I find irresistible.

Probably the greatest aspect of cockrings, from a bottom's perspective, is the way they situate your top’s balls in just such a way as to make them slap against your ass end while your being plowed that is just downright sexy.

Beyond those rather simple benefits, there are a bunch of other ways that sporting a ring can boost your sexytime satisfaction. Harder, longer-lasting erections, increased sensation, and stronger orgasms are just a few of the more tangible ways that cock rings add an extra pinch of magic to your sexy wrestling matches.

A full rundown on all of the benefits of cock rings can be found here, in case you were wondering.


If you've never worn a cockring, you are really missing out!

But, like with many new things, sometimes adding a new element to your sex life can be a bit intimidating. If that last sentence describes you, please, read on! This article is written precisely for you!

Here are seven great tips for the cockring novices among us!


Take It Slowly At First

As with most bedroom related activities, you're going to want to start off slow. Much the same way you don't start off your explorations into anal play with the 'ThunderFuck 5000 Extreme Manhandler Rubber Fist dildo', you're going to want to find a good starter ring to begin with.

I would recommend getting an adjustable cockring to begin with. This will allow you to accustom yourself to the sensation of wearing a cockring while at the same time allowing you to find which sizing option works best for you when it comes time to upgrade to something a little more permanent.

Don't Be Shy With The Lube

Across the board, lube is probably the most important item in the gay guy's arsenal and it's no different when it comes to cockrings. You're going to make sure you have some on hand when experimenting with your cockring.

When it comes time to put your cockring on, be sure to lube up the inner area of the ring really well in addition to applying some to your penis.

This will help avoid any chafing or unpleasant rubbing that might otherwise occur during application.

It's also a good idea to re-apply some lube when it comes time to remove your cockring. Make sure to gently work some underneath the interior of the ring that is making contact with your skin and slowly slide the ring off when you're ready to finish up.

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Be Sure To Limit Your Time Wearing Your Ring

Because your cockring works by restricting bloodflow to the penis, prolonged use can lead to some rather unpleasant side effects. This means you're going to want to limit the amount of time you spend sporting your ring.

Generally, a half-hour is considered the upper limit of time you'll want to spend wearing your ring.

However, I recommend starting off with smaller intervals and working your way up. Start with ten minutes to see how it feels, and if you're comfortable ratcheting up the time from there go ahead and do so. Just don't exceed the hard limit of thirty minutes, though.

If you feel any sort of discomfort or pain while wearing your ring, take it off immediately just to be safe. It's also a good idea to call it quits on the ring if your member starts to drastically change color or begins to feel cold.

Solo Test Drive Your Ring

I know it might be appealing to just jump right into the game and bring your new cockring to a hook-up to try it out, but that could end badly for you.

Instead, I would recommend experimenting alone with your ring the first few times you use it, just to get the hang of it and to see how your body reacts to the ring.

It's just like any other sex toy in this regard...

You're going to want to know exactly how to use it, how you react to it, and you'll want to be confident in all the, ahem, ins and outs of it's operation.

This will save you the embarrassment of fumbling around with a cockring while your partner is eager to get the show on the road. In the long run, being completely familiar with your cockring is highly recommended before use in the field.

Besides, who doesn't like another excuse to snap one off?!

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Get Used To How Cockrings Interact With Condoms

Safe sex is a pretty important consideration in every gay man's life so it is important to know how to employ your cockring while still maintaining safe sex standards.

Most cockrings are perfectly compatible with condoms, it just takes a little getting used to and a bit of practice.

This is, again, where lube plays an important role in the proper use of cockrings...

Simply put the condom on as you normally would and then generously lube the surface of the condom. It's also a good idea to apply a heaping helping of lube to the ring itself before application.

When it comes time to slide the ring on, take it nice and slow and go very gently to avoid any ripping or damage that will compromise the effectiveness of the condom. Otherwise, putting a cockring on over a condom isn't that much different than applying one without.

Again, lube will be crucial in stopping any unwanted friction between the ring and the condom that could cause damage to the condom.

Make Sure Your Ring Stays Nice And Clean

I feel like this one should kind of go without saying, but you never know. Better safe than sorry, I say.

Just like any other sex toy, you are going to want to be sure to clean up your ring after each use.

It's bound to get all sorts of stuff on it that you're not going to want to leave sitting around for very long.

It's bound to get all sorts of stuff on it that you're not going to want to leave sitting around on it for very long.

Most cockrings can be washed with simple soap and hot water but be sure to familiarize yourself with the specifications of your particular ring before attempting to clean it. 

Personally, I prefer to use a sex toy specific cleaner. Most of the sex toy cleaning products available on the market these days are approved for use with all commonly used sex toy materials.

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Once You've Gotten Your Feet Wet...

Once you've become accustomed to the way your starter ring feels and operates, you might want to branch out and try some other models of cockring.

There is a wide array of cockring styles out there to choose from and, if you like the way a cockring feels, you might even want to try experimenting with ball stretchers in tandem with your cockrings.

If you like the way a regular cockring feels you might really enjoy a vibrating cockring, for instance. Other types of cockrings include: stretchy cockrings, metal cockrings, and cock and ball rings.

That’s a lot to throw at you all in one paragraph and it really doesn’t even begin to describe the diversity of selection available. Our guide to the best cock rings by type has all of the info and advice you need to help you find your perfect match.


You probably have a few questions by now. This quick FAQ should cover them nicely.

Are Cock Rings Really Safe?

The short answer is yes, but there are a few caveats. Proper usage and safe practices exist for almost anything- cock rings are no exception.

The first thing to keep in mind is to remember the time limit. Cock rings work by restricting blood flow to your penis. Prolonged periods of restriction can lead to long-term problems and damage to your sensitive penile tissues.If you respect the half-hour or so time limit, you should be alright, though.

It’s also important to listen to your body. If you start to feel pain, take that fucker off right away! Another thing to look out for is a drastic change in color. Your bound to get a little bit of this no matter what, but if your wang is turning dark purple and feeling cold, it’s time to abandon ship. In cases like this, you might have simply worn the ring for too long or maybe it’s not properly sized and is sitting a bit tighter than it should.

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Which Material Is Best?

That really depends on what you are looking for and what your level of experience with cock rings is. For newbies, it’s recommended that you start off with a stretchy or adjustable cock ring. 

This set of three, varied-size stretchy cock rings is a perfect example of what a newb should be looking for. The different sizes allow you to experiment with sizing, the bands themselves are a bit wider for increased comfort, and the silicone material is very beginner-friendly.

A good, adjustable starter ring like this one is another great way to gauge your comfort level and size parameters. It is made from stretchy, comfortable surgical tubing and has a simple sliding mechanism that lets you adjust the tightness without a lot of hassle.

On the other hand, if you’re looking for something with a little more panache, a nice, shiny metal ring looks hyper masculine and a bit intimidating. They’re perfect for guys who are a little more on the dommy side and who want to project an air of masculine dominance.

Really, it’s best to explore what works best for you, those are just a few suggestions. Each material has its own pros and cons that only you can sort through for yourself based on what you like. 

When it's all said and done, a cockring is a great way to add a whole new dimension of sensation to both solo play and fun with partners. Now, get out there and see what all the hype is about! You won't be disappointed.

 7 Tips For Cockring Beginners

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