9 Non-Sexual Turn Ons For Gays
There are lots of things that turn on us as gay men. Dicks, asses, muscles, tall, dark, handsome…lots of features and attributes can be deemed sexy and sexual. But there are lots of not-so-typical non-sexual turn ons too, that can really get us going. Here are a few:
Ask any guy what is one of the first thing they look for in a man, and they’ll tell you intelligence. Sure: young, dumb, and hung sounds like a hot hookup in theory, but intelligence goes a long way past the 20-40 minutes you two are getting on.
Looks are great, but when a guy can carry on a good conversation due to his wits, it can add a whole new level of hotness to his sex appeal. Brains over brains any day, just ask any of your sapiosexual homosexual friends who literally get turned on by guys with a mind.
You can seduce these people with overt intelligence on top of a guy’s other non-sexual turn ons.
1. When a guy knows how to dance.
If a man is able to move, whether the dance is sexual or not, it is sexy sight to view. Not all guys know how to dance. A vast majority struggle with two feet, where a step touch, step touch out of rhythm is all they can accomplish. But when a gentleman knows how to dance, all bets are off. Seeing a dude shake his ass and flow with the music, is like putting his entire body on display like a working, moving piece of art.
The flexing muscles and bulging male physique is the perfect eye candy and non-sexual turn on that will get your heart beating just a little bit harder. Especially if he is wearing tight, movable clothes to get his real groove on it.
2. Working out.
Building your muscles and exercise is serious business and a lot of hard work. While this shouldn’t necessarily be sexualized, there is something just so damn hot about a stud working out. Wearing next to nothing, a guy lifting weights and getting swoll right in front of you can lead to arousal in an instant. The bulge in the gym shorts, the ripped biceps exposed in a skimpy tank top. And a man huffing and puffing while dripping in sweat?
Sign me up! Also, when you’re an adult at the gym, you can relive some of your high school fantasies involving getting it on with hot jocks in the steam or locker room. Not to mention the showers.
A gym can be a guy man’s escape, or place where he is able to check out all the eye candy of muscle studs walking amongst us.
3. A sense of humor.
If a guy can make you laugh, you know he is a keeper. Is there anything sexier than a dude with a great wit and sense of humor? Human beings need to experience the joy of laughter. It releases dopamine and positive neurons into our blood stream, making us happier, healthier and better people. Who doesn’t love to laugh?
A guy with a great sense of humor often implies that he is clever, and brains are always sexy on a dude. When the body, hot sex, and things in common fade, having a great sense of humor can keep the fire going in a relationship. If a guy can keep us laughing through all of the stress and strife of life, he is a keeper.
4. Kindness.
Kill them with kindness, they say. And why not? We have a lot of problems and humanity needs an overhaul: injustices, murders, terrorism, poverty, starvation, and wars. So when a nice guy comes along, it can be really sexy to meet and find someone who wears their heart on their sleeve and is a genuinely nice person.
Remember, the way a fella treats other people is the same way he will end up treating you. So find a guy that turns you on with his heart just as much as with his dick.
Guys with a heart are often just better people to be around anyway, which naturally increases their hotness level. Everyone likes the bad boy because they are hot and wild, with an often unsuspecting twist revealed at a later date. Manners are a must in the modern world and should not be overlooked when a guy lacks them.
But kind dudes are best because they’ll stick around longer, leave a longer lasting impression on this planet and actually care for you and your feelings in the process. Because in the end nice guys do finish first.
5. Scents and smells.
Pheromones are real, and our 5th sense is one of the most important ones when it comes to our attraction of a guy. The hottest bro on the planet can have the worst breath, and then our boners easily deflate back down inside our tight whites.
Or, a guy who you might have previously thought as your average type becomes exceedingly hotter with the right scent—be it natural or a mixture of his body chemistry and colognes, deodorants. You’ll find that all different types of men have all different types of smells and preferences to which they like better.
Some guys prefer their men with a more natural smell, while others like their guys to be freshly showered, after shaved, and smelling of a sexy, masculine cologne. While not directly sexual, scents are correlated with sex in that we can get a non-sexual turn on by just enjoying the way a man fills our nostrils.
6. Assertiveness.
Not just in the bedroom. Is there anything sexier than a man who knows what he wants and goes after it, without fear of judgement or rejection? A guy that wreaks of confidence oozes sex appeal, and can make us swoon most of the time.
There is a difference between aggression, attitude, and cockiness versus assertiveness, as a guy with assertiveness doesn’t need to be a douche about it. He just is very self aware, and utilizes that to the best of his advantage. Someone who is assertive is sexy in a non-sexual way, though you can imagine what they must be like in the bedroom, too, by watching the way they operate in real life.
Assertiveness is attractiveness…
7. When a guy knows how to cook.
The way to a man’s heart, apparently, is through his stomach. And it’s pretty sexy watching a guy who knows his way around a kitchen. He is using his hands to do things to food and preparation you wish he was doing to your body. He has taste, and knows how to multitask as he dances around the kitchen, whipping up something for you both to share. And he is good at preparing mouth-watering dishes that leave you satisfied in every way but sexual.
When a guy is good in the kitchen, it turns meal time into an all-new non-sexual but sexual experience. He’ll show you that a way to your own heart is indeed through your stomach—the butterflies you’ll get watching him cook up a storm.
8. A guy with good or similar music tastes.
Variety is the spice of life, so some may say. But a guy becomes 10 tens sexier when he has good taste in music that is alignment with your own. There is nothing worse than having no music tastes in common, because you never can dance or just throw back with your guy.
But when the dude is into the same tunes as you, you can have car karaoke and living room sing alongs. He doesn’t have to like everything that you like, but having a few of your favorite pop diva favorites can make a world of difference during down time. And liking good music is just sexy, in general. If your musical tastes are aligned, it’s already half the battle of finding something significant to have in common with one another.
Music is the language of the world, and it has the power to be just as much of a turn on as something truly meant to be sexual.
9. Gentlemen with great fashion sense.
Someone who dresses well has a certain level of confidence they carry with them where ever they go. They know what looks good on them, and they wear it proudly. A well-dressed man turns head because—let’s face it—not everyone knows how to dress well and look good all the time. He doesn’t have to deck himself out in the best designer clothes. When a male dresses right, his clothes are tailored or fit perfectly, highlighting his best assets of a muscled male physique.
His ensemble could be from a second-hand store or from a Parisian couture house. If a guy dresses well, it doesn’t matter where the clothing actually came from.
When a guy looks good in clothing, he just looks good. A well-dressed dude will more often than not have a swagger and pride in their appearance, which radiates sexuality.
What are your favorite non-sexual turn ons of guys?
