14 Tips For Great Head: The Dick Sucking Guide Every Gay Needs to Read
The first time you sucked dick, it probably didn't go as expected. Maybe you enjoyed it a lot more than you expected - or maybe you were a bit put off, and it took you a while to get back into it. Some guys NEVER enjoy giving blowjobs, while other guys can’t get enough of it. Most of us however fall somewhat in the middle.
If we are in the mood - there is nothing hotter than a hot throbbing cock in your mouth.
Sometimes one guy is really in the mood for dick while the other, not so much. To enjoy oral sex, learning a bit more about it can help you get in the right headspace when it comes time to go down on your man. This will go along way in improving your overall sex life.
So gear up head queens, here are my top 14 tips for giving head that surely help both giver and receiver make the most of the experience:
1. Giving head should last more than 10 seconds
Part of what makes giving head so hot is the build up, the anticipation of releasing his hard cock from his underwear, as you slowly tease his tip with your tongue - until you finally take the whole cock in your mouth.
To build anticipation and heighten pleasure, don’t go full throttle from the get go. Slow down, and take it in small steps. If you give everything in the first few seconds, there will be little left to the imagination.
Give your man a preview of what you have in store for him. Focus on kissing, body to body contact, touching, cock-on-cock play. Tease his penis with a couple of licks, and then return to making out. Take control and make the experience a little unpredictable. Flip him over and eat his ass out, then go back to his cock. Keep it interesting by switching it up.
2. Get harder and hotter with extended foreplay
We live in a society where the expectations placed on men to perform sexually often result in performance anxiety.
Is my cock hard enough? Is it big enough? Can I stay hard long enough? Is my penis good looking enough?
Must of us feel the pressure to be better at some point in our lives…
Part of the struggle is getting into the right mind-space during sex, and learning the art of self-love and acceptance.
Key to relaxing, and improving your performance during sex is to maximize foreplay prior to the main event. This builds anticipation, and helps take your mind of the immediate need to perform. Taking some extra time to enjoy your partner's body, mind, and soul - prior to deep throating him, will go along way to improve your overall experience.
Foreplay can simply be defined as the set of activities that guys can use to arouse and excite, before penetrative sex - either orally or anally.
Some guys, whether its due to physical or mental ailment, cannot perform penetrative sex. Learning to enjoy and extend foreplay may be key to removing the pressure to perform, and provide alternatives to “traditional” sexual activity.
Begin by playing with his erogenous zones: kiss his lips, rub and massage his scotrum, massage and lick his nipples, and gently stimulate his perineum. Leave the cock to last. This will build pleasure, anticipation, and take his mind of any insecurities he may have.
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3. Get into the giving head state-of-mind
Pleasure is usually the product of reciprocity. If you are enjoying yourself, most likely he is as well…
If you aren't enjoying sucking his dick, he will probably sense your disinterest - and start to wonder if there is something wrong with him. Even if he has an A+ cock, maybe you are the type of guy who is just not that into giving head, but prefer to receive it.
In any event, great sex is the result of comprise. Even if giving head is not your favourite activity - learning to like it is key to ensuring both of you enjoy sex to is maximum potential.
That’s why getting into the “giving head state-of-mind” is essential…
Mentally prepare yourself for what’s about to happen beforehand. Play it out in your head, and imagine all the reasons why a hard cock in your mouth is arousing and sexy. Maybe the idea of pleasuring someone is more appealing than having a dong in your mouth. Focus on why the experience is pleasurable to you. When you are actually engaging in the act, you will enjoy it with enough prior metal prep.
You have been cruising his bulge. You have noticed the way his cock runs along the side of his jeans. You want to devour it.
4. Keep your clothing on for as long as possible
Every time I go out to a circuit party - the scantily clad guys on display is initially intimidating and quite arousing. However after a few minutes, there is simply too much to look at. My mind is overloaded with male sexiness, and every guy begins to look the same…
If 10 guys with perfect asses are all wearing jock straps - overstimulation quickly takes hold…
The guys that catch my attention are not the one’s that are hot for the sake of being hot - but rather the ones that leave something to the imagination.
This is all to say, keeping your clothes on longer before sex is not because I want people to be prudes, but rather because when they actually come off, the sexual anticipation makes the experience hotter, more intense, and ultimately more satisfying.
Stripping is one of the hottest parts of sexual contact. Touch him, rub his chest, massage his ass crack. When you finally get to his cock, his eyes will lighten up and his bodily arousal will heighten…
Making the unveiling of his dick a major event. Slowly pull down his pants. Lift his underwear in a provocative way - before finally releasing his throbbing cock in all its glory!
Enjoy the site of his cock. Make eye contact, and then return to your study of his cock. Slowly massage it. Kiss it. Build up slowly to full on oral penetration.
5. Lick, tease, and make his cock drip in saliva…
Start by kissing and licking the head. Make your way to the underside of the penis: the frenulum. Tease it with gentle but rapid licks with your tongue…
Move along the shaft, kissing and enjoying every inch of it. Make it drip with your saliva!
Allow the heat from your breath to radiate onto his cock, while you gently tease his tip, and massage his balls with your hands.
Take in the smell and texture of his cock. This is your cock to play with, enjoy it.
6. His dick’s behaviour is the best indication of his satisfaction
Aside from guys who cannot get hard due to a medical condition, his cock is the greatest indicator on whether he is enjoying receiving head.
His cock will tell you what feels good, when you are hitting the spot right - or when you are perhaps being too rough.
If his cock jumps around, throbs, and is leaking pre-cum - it is a pretty good indication that your are doing a good job.
7. Giving a blowjob is as much about you as it is about his pleasure
If you are enjoying yourself - so will he. One of the things that makes great sex is when you know your partner is having a good time…
Good sex is all about doing what is pleasurable to you, which in turn most likely means your partner will be having a good time as well.
Giving head is as much about you enjoying his cock as it is about him enjoying your mouth. Relish the moment. Simply because you are playing a submissive role doesn't mean you can’t enjoy it. Embrace your role for the moment, and enjoy giving your date pleasure.
8. Split on his dick, use flavored lube to supplement
There are limits to how much salvia any given guy can produce. Ask your partner to contribute by spitting into your mouth or onto his dick…
Take breaks. Take a sip of water. And supplement with some quality flavored lube.
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9. Enjoy your gag reflex and so will he…
It is normal to gag on cock. Don’t get turned off by it. Relax, and slowly build up your tolerance on how much cock you can take in at once…
Besides, most guys enjoy when you chock on their cock (within reason).
Knowing that it turns him on when you take more than you think you can will make gagging on cock a hot experience - not something to shy away from.
Of course, if you have a gag reflex that is so intense that it makes oral sex impossible, this is another story, and a topic for another blog post. For our purposes here, guys with a “normal” gag reflex - meaning they can take a penis in the mouth and only gag when it it reaches the deepest depths of the givers throat, learning to love it will heighten both partners pleasure.
Push your limits a little, and both of you will be happy you did.
10. Sex sprays can help, but use with caution…
A numbing spray can be a great way to increase your limits and lessen some of the anxiety associated with giving head.
Don’t however use one to avoid pain. Pain is the bodies natural response to trauma. Oral sex sprays are great to improve performance, and increase pleasure. Always read the instructions, and know your limits.
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11. Blowjobs involve more than the mouth: use your hands
Sucking cock doesn't mean you can’t use your hands. Some guys won’t be able to cum from oral stimulation alone (not that cumming should necessarily be the main goal, though it can be). Using your hands to massage his shaft while you work his head will help him reach climax.
It also increase the amount stimulation his cock receives, and as a result the amount of pleasure.
Play with his balls, figure his asshole, or play with his nipples - then return to stroking his penis while you use your tongue.
12. Nice teeth are sexy, but not during a blowjob
There is nothing hotter than a guy with a perfect set of pearly whites…but during oral, teeth can ruin the experience. That is not to say getting head from someone with no teeth particularly arousing (though some may enjoy that - and all the power to them).
Be vigilant of how you position your mouth, particularly if your guy is pounding your mouth hardcore. You don’t want to hurt him. There is nothing worse than a cock that feels like it has been de-skinned for a week after a blowjob.
Try wrapping your lips around your teeth, and be aware of how wide you open your jaw your oral penetration.
13. Cumming is hot but not mandatory…
Giving head is not only about reaching orgasm or ejaculation. Enjoy the blow job as an experience in itself…
Most guys won’t cum from a blowjob alone - though the chances of this occurring increase if you have engaged in plenty of foreplay. Also, if the situation is particularly arousing such as getting head in the back seat of a car, or the backroom of a club, you may squirt your load faster than you anticipate.
If you do manage to reach climax, there is no rule that the giver has to swallow…
Because cumming in someone’s mouth can either be a huge turn on or turn off, asking before you are about to blow your load where your partner wants it is the respectful and courteous thing to do.
14. And finally, embrace being submissive…
Let him fuck your face.
There is nothing more objectifying, humiliating, degrading then getting used. There is also nothing sexier. Embrace your submissive role as giver!
