Top 50 Gay Sex Tips for 2021
2021 is almost here. Though 2020 has been difficult for all of us, having the right mindset for the coming year, can be the difference between prospering or falling victim to the general malaise that most of us have suffered over the last couple of months. There are a plethora of gay sex tips out there. This list is meant to be more encompassing than “how to be a better top or bottom”, but rather focus on the overall environment of gay sex. Our list includes tips on both physical and psychological well-being, central to a successful 2021.
Without further delay, here are our top 50 tips for gay sex in 2021.
- No expectations, no regrets. 2020 was a shite year for everyone. Go into 2021 with an open mind, open heart, and a desire to get it on!
- Try new things. An openness with regard to sex could lead you to a new openness with yourself.
- Make 2021 count—in the bedroom that is. Spruce up your sex layer with some new designs, sheets, bedding, pillows and decor. If you build it, he will come.
- Consult with your generals. What are the kids into these days? What is all the rage? Ask your best friends and allies for sex advice and counsel about the latest sexual crazes.
- Be yourself. Life is too damn short to not live your best, truest life. The more solid you are with yourself, the more confident you’ll be in the bedroom.
- Expand your sex toy arsenal. Gear up and tool up with some fun sex toys to use solo and to share.
- Out with the old, in with the new. Replace your toys, underwear, and kinky clothes with some new items this year. Fresh new year, fresh start. The hotter you feel in your new drawers, the sexier you’ll come off. Shop our best selection of briefs.
- Switch positions. If you always top, try bottoming with a trusted partner. And Vice versa. Missionary is for quitters. Try a myriad of positions other than your go-to standard.
- Douche it out. Cleaning out before an intense round of anal play is essential to avoid messy situations. Adam’s Toy box has nearly 30 enema and douching devices to choose from, depending on your wants and needs. Read our guides on douching as well
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- Be adventurous and take your sex out of the bedroom. There are lots of fun, safe, sexy places to have sex. You just have to get creative.
- Purchase a sex toy you never would have tried before. Why not try a butt plug or full insertable you’ve always been curious about?
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- Study up. Research the new trends and positions in the world of gay sex!
- Lick it before you stick it. Explore your partner’s whole body with your tongue. Just like a cat in heat. Meow.
- Explore some kinks and fetishes. You never don't like something until you try it.
- Drink plenty of water. Hydration helps with proper digestion and makes your skin look healthier. Bottoming will be easier and you’ll feel great with that extra glow on your skin.
- Get your haircut. A fresh new do might just be the ticket for you to look good, feeling fly, and ready for romp with some new confidence in your appearance.
- Start a new workout plan. Fitness is sexy, and with some an improved muscle definition, you’ll have more stamina and will feel sexier getting it on after some #gains. Do you even lift, Bro? 😂
- Trim your nails and body hair. Manscaping to ensure you’re working with a clean, fresh, clippered body palate shows a consideration for yourself and your partner. Clippered nails mean no scrape-age and no cuts when fingering things out.
- Condoms are your friend. Safe sex is smart and should still be practiced on the regular. For all your rubber needs, check out our wide array of condoms.
- Get on PrEP. It’s readily available now and many liberal cities offer it for free. Protect yourself with PrEP before you f$&@.
- Lube it up. The ass doesn’t self-lubricate, so feel free to use ample amounts to prevent tearing the thin inner wall of your ass. It’s better to be slick than sorry. Check out our best-selling lubes.
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- Oral sex can be better than penetration.
- Bring a towel. Just like an outing to the beach, having a towel handy for wiping off excess lube and sweat can help keep your sheets clean for the afterward part of—you know—laying on them.
- A good rimming can be just the right amount of foreplay. Don’t expect to just shove your hard cock straight into a guy. Warm him and his whole up to the occasion by tongue punching his love star before entering it with larger objects.
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- Get tested and know your status. It should be every day practice now to question your partner’s STI status to make sure you don’t pick up any unwanted bugs. You should also be getting full blood work testing every 3-6 months or more.
- Always ask for consent before touching, talking dirty, or attempting sex with someone. Otherwise, it’s harassment. And nobody likes unwanted sexual behavior.
- Go to the restroom before and after intercourse. Pissing, especially after sex, can help you avoid UTIs and germs that can into your piss slit and cause infection. It also feels amazing to pee right after orgasm. It’s like a two-for-one for penis pleasure.
- Make him the priority. It’s hot getting a guy off, and he’ll be more likely to come back for more (did you see what I did there?) knowing he had a hot time and got off. You’ll be perceived as a considerate, passionate lover. I’ve had much worse said about me!
- Learn which positions and sex acts are your favorite and try to get into those more often. The more turned on you are by what you’re doing, the more likely your partner will reciprocate the same energy.
- Idle hands are the devil’s playground. Get all handsy with your man. Explore his body with your touch and keep them hands moving doing something stimulative while you’re going at it. Cupping the balls, stroking his shaft, grabbing his ass, and playing with his nipples are all great suggestions (but not limited to) of where you can put your hands while grinding.
- Communicate. Sex is so much better with guys who are willing to dirty talk while doing the dirty. If someone feels great, say it. If you’re wondering if you’re doing something right or helping your partner, ask. There’s no harm in being vocal in the bedroom. In fact, it’s sexy.
- Don’t ignore the prostate. The male g-spot (p-spot) is a great area to focus on inside a man’s ass. Give this nut-shaped organ so special love and TLC, and you’ll watch as your man had mind blowing orgasms he has never experienced before.
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- Set the mood. Light some candles, put on your best cologne, sim the lights, pour yourselves a drink, put on some background music or porn, and create an ambiance that is fun and sexy for you two to help get you both in the mood for some love making. Give him a massage as foreplay with amazing massage oil.
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- Sex doesn’t have to be about romance. Many guys can “shut off” those love feelings when banging each other, and sex doesn’t always have to be about romance.
- Take it into the shower. Shower sex is a fun way to get clean and get it on. His glistening muscles in the glimmer of the water pouring all over his sexy body is the added benefit of playing in the bathtub.
- There’s a lot to be said about a good old fashioned blow job. Not everyone likes receiving them, but if you can give good head, the chances are your man won’t be looking for it from anyone else in the future.
- Tantric sex is always an option. This ancient art of Kama-Sutraing in the bedroom should be explored at great lengths. When you have a spiritual as well as physical connection, the sex is that much more intense and memorable.
- Do your Kegels. Strengthening your sphincter muscles allows you more control when you bottom and feels better, too. Give your top the ride of his life by squeezing your hole down on his shaft, made easier by doing regular Kegel exercises.
- Switch speeds, tempos, rhythms, and paces. This isn’t the tortoise and hare race to the finish. By switching between fast and slow, medium to halted pacing, you create a sexual tension buildup that will explode for both of you upon orgasm—with an intensity.
- Don’t be afraid of a little mess. Sex can be really gross. Sweat, germs, and sticking your penis into an area of your body that produces food waste. If a mess does happen, have that handy towel ready and take your play into the bathroom for cleanup.
- It’s more the motion of the ocean than the size of the boat. Size matters, but big dicks aren’t always what is most desirable. There have been a lot of guys that know how to top and top well who don’t necessarily have a big tool for you.
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- Breathe on him. In his ear, over his cock, and all over his body. Believe it or not, your breathing on him can be a huge turn on and foreplay mechanism. Just make sure to brush, floss, and use mouthwash beforehand to guarantee your mouth is smelling fresh, clean, and ready for sexy fun.
- Teeth can be our friend, too. Some guys want the full on Dracula biting treatment, while other guys are just cool with a little nibble here and there. Start with a delicate, sexy little bit of his lower lip or ear lobe, and see how he handles a little nip from your champers. If he likes it, bite down gently on sensitive areas.
- Don’t forget the nipples. For some guys, they’re nipples are extremely sensitive and wired to their groin. Don’t ignore these sensual areas of a man’s body. Even if they are a dead zone, pecs are sexy to look at and nipples are fun to play with.
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- Take some breaks while going at it. If you’re the top, stay inside him without thrusting and kiss him passionately to allow his ass muscles to constrict around your cock shaft. If you’re the bottom, make him take pauses every now and then. He’ll last longer without cumming and prolong your sex time together.
- If you don’t feel right about a situation, don’t have sex. No one should ever pressure you to having sex and there should never be a time where you feel forced into it.
- Sex is meant to be enjoyable for both parties. While you want to make sure your man is satisfied, you gotta make sure you’re having a blast, too. Get it ok but guarantee you’re enjoying yourself.
- Skip on the masturbating before you hook up. Holding off for a few days pleasuring yourself can give you just enough pent up sexual frustration that, by the time you and your man do meet up, you’ll be ready to pounce on him at a moment’s notice. Give the jacking off a rest for a few days and reap the benefits of hotter sex.
- There are many different ways to have sexual contact, and all of them have their own way of potentially getting you off. It’s up to you to decide which activity is right for you or which behavior you’d like to try.
