Gay Sex 101: Seven Essential Positions Every Guy Should Know

Anyone who's ever had even half-way decent sex knows that position is everything. A simple change in posture can mean the difference between hitting just the right spot and just hitting randomly. If you've ever raised your hips a bit and suddenly your top started making some serious noise or if you've ever just lifted your leg the tiniest bit and your bottom started to squeal with delight, you understand just how big an impact position has on the quality of your sex.

Position affects a number of seriously important aspects of sex, from angle of penetration and range of motion to who has active control over the action. So, it's clear that being good in bed means being familiar and, more importantly, comfortable with at least the most basic and common gay sex positions. This guide will help you do just that.

Practice Makes Perfect - A sense of humor and mutual patience in the first stages will go a long way toward softening the learning curve. 

The first couple of times that you try a new position can be a bit dicey. Neither you nor your partner is accustomed to the, ahem, ins and outs of how to comfortably maneuver in the new position and the result can be a bit awkward. The point I'm driving at here is that you shouldn't get too experimental if you're hoping to impress a new partner. Stick to what you do best and expand with your new partner from there as you become more comfortable with each other's bodies and kinks.

On the other hand, if you already have a long-time partner or even a fuck buddy who's down to expand some horizons, you can start experimenting right away and getting comfortable with the positions so they come naturally. In any event, a sense of humor and mutual patience in the first stages will go a long way toward softening the learning curve. Now, on to the fun stuff!

Missionary Position - Eye contact, kissing, and the bottom's ability to wrap their legs around their top

I know, I know, it's not exactly the most exciting or rare position out there but that's not the point of this guide. We're talking about the basics here and it doesn't get more basic than missionary. Having said that, missionary is an extremely effective and sensual position when done right. The standards are standard for a reason, after all.

This position is excellent for new couples because it offers ample opportunity for sensual bonding and observation. Eye contact, kissing, and the bottom's ability to wrap their legs around their top to pull them in are all aspects of this position that allow you to really turn up the heat early on.

This position also allows you to see the reactions your partner is having to what is going on. This allows you to get better at reading each other's likes and dislikes so you do a better job of pleasing each other.

Cowboy - Bottom has more control over the penetration and speed of the action

 

Cowboy is a great position for times when the bottom wants to guide the action and do some of the heavy lifting. This position involves the bottom straddling the top's pelvis either by squatting or kneeling facing toward the top's head.

Like missionary, this position allows ample opportunity for observation and intimate bonding. Easy eye contact, hand-holding, chest caressing, and kissing are all intimate possibilities with this position.

It is an excellent choice for bottom's who aren't quite accustomed to anal sex and require more control over the penetration and speed of the action. It's also a perfect position for allowing the top a moment to recharge his batteries before charging back into the fray.

Reverse Cowboy - Offer the bottom superior control and power, as well as the ability to guide penetration toward their prostate more easily

This is pretty much just cowboy but the bottom faces the other way, toward the top's feet. This position offers many of the same physical benefits of the cowboy position but not the eye contact, hand holding, and kissing.

It does, however, offer the bottom superior control and power, as well as the ability to guide penetration toward their prostate more easily. Being able to brace yourself by planting your hands in front of you allows you to drop that ass down like an atom bomb over and over again without getting tired. On the flip side, you can also lean back and plant your hands behind you to switch up the angle and share control of the action with your top.

Doggy Style - Tops should be grabby around the hips and use them to guide the action and improve the strength and depth of their thrusts

Who doesn't love doggy style? This position has the bottom on his knees either braced with hands in front of them or simply face down into the bed while the top slides in from behind in a kneeling or squatting position.

This position is less intimate from an eye-contact, hand-holding type perspective but it can still be hot as fuck. Tops should be grabby around the hips and use them to guide the action and improve the strength and depth of their thrusts. Keep those hands moving, caressing the bottom's back and even throwing in a light spanking here and there. If your bottom is into it, make those spankings as hard as you like. Otherwise, a light slap to go with the tickle is usually well received.

Bottoms shouldn't just be still and take it. Arch your back and look back toward your top and push back a bit. If you're rockin' the face-plant style, reach back and pull them in. Try to match the rhythm of your top's thrusting to really crank up the good feelings. While you don't have a lot of control in this position as a bottom, there is still plenty that you can do to subtly guide the action and let your top know you are enthusiastic about what they are doing.

This position can be pretty physically demanding on the top. Switch to something like cowboy or reverse cowboy for a bit to keep the action rolling along smoothly if your man is getting a bit winded.

 

The Pirate's Bounty - This position is pretty much unbeatable when it comes to depth of penetration

I don't know who thinks of these names but here we are, the pirate's bounty, that's just what they call it. Either way, this position has the bottom lying on his back with one leg in the air draped over the top's shoulder as he enters from the front in a kneeling position. This position is pretty much unbeatable when it comes to depth of penetration. The top is able to push the leg further toward the bottom's head to increase the depth of penetration and improve the angle of entry. Flexible bottoms can experience unbelievably deep sensations of penetration and improved prostate stimulation.

As a face-to-face position, the pirate's bounty allows ample opportunity for eye contact and frontal caressing. The bottom can easy jerk off while getting banged and the top has full access to the bottom's fun bits for easy stroking, ball play, nipple tweaking, light choking, or whatever the hell else turns their crank. As with most positions, keep those hands moving and busy. It sends the message that you are present and invested in what's going on in the moment, not writing a to-do list for the next day.

The Bodyguard - Being on their feet allows both partners a drastically increased range of motion and superb optionality for angle of entry

This is probably the easiest standing position out there. The bottom stands, usually leaning against a wall, with their back arched while the top enters from behind. Being on their feet allows both partners a drastically increased range of motion and superb optionality for angle of entry. Control of the action can be shared or handed back and forth as needed and powerful leg muscles let you both get some serious oomph behind your motion.

A variant of this position has the bottom kneeling on a bed while the standing top enters from behind. This style takes away a lot of the shared control over the action and puts it in the hands of the top. It does, however, allow the top superb thrusting power and easier access to the bottom's prostate.

Spooning - This position is great for slow, undulating movements 

Finally, the most relaxed and intimate position of all, spooning. This position has both partners on their sides with the bottom's leg slightly elevated to allow entry to the top. This position is great for slow, undulating movements and offers ample opportunity for things like sucking/nibbling earlobes, neck kisses, stroking, and embracing.

This is a good position for resting both partners for a final, enthusiastic push toward climax or as a way to get the ball rolling after some casual foreplay. It's also an excellent way for new partners to get comfortable and bond with one another because it is just such a damn intimate position.

There You Have It!

Those are pretty much the staple positions every gay guy should be familiar with. Practicing these positions to the point where transitioning from one to the other naturally and comfortably is effortless is one of the best ways to lay the foundations required to perform some of the more ambitious stuff out there.

Take the time to work on these positions with your partner until you have completely internalized them and then look into some of the more challenging positions to expand your horizons. Like anything else in life, though, ignoring these basic, foundational techniques will make pulling off the really challenging stuff that much harder.

Now, get out there and make some fuckin' magic!