Anal numbing lube is a lot like cilantro in that the opinions about it are very strong and very divided. Nobody seems to have a centrist's point of view about numbing lube- it's pure love or pure hate.
If you ask one person what they think about it, they will regale you with a gushing ode to this modern marvel of butt-pain alleviation, but ask another person about it and you might be treated to a fire and brimstone sermon on the grave dangers of this demon lube sent from the very pits of hell itself to destroy humanity one clenched sphincter at a time.
Like most things, it's more a matter of how you use it, and why. Here's everything you need to know about it- the good, the bad, and the ugly.
What It Is
Anal numbing lube is a sexual lubrication product that contains a chemical agent that desensitizes the nerve endings of the anal wall to ease the pain and discomfort of insertion.
The active ingredient is usually benzocaine, an agent commonly found in over the counter medications for toothaches, sunburn, and sore throat medications. Sometimes, however, a similar agent called Lidocaine is used. Both agents have been in use for decades and are widely considered to be completely safe.
What It Isn't
Although it definitely works as advertised, it will numb your bum, it most certainly is not a magic potion to turn you into the Incredible Hulk of power bottoms. It has its limits, and those limits are determined by your own.
It will not stop many of the problems that come with anal sex, it will only alleviate the discomfort of them. If your ass isn't trained up enough, that giant rubber fist is still going to rip your downstairs mix-up just as badly with or without anal numbing lube- you just might not realize it as quickly. Which brings us to our next topic...
As I alluded to in the previous paragraph, there are some dangers that come with the use of anal desensitizers. The lube might take away the pain of insertion, but that pain and discomfort is a very important indicator that there may be something going wrong with the plumbing down in the basement.
Anal sex has many complications that can arise, and none of them are very pleasant. The skin of the anal wall is thin and lacks the various protections of external skin. This means that the anal wall is very susceptible to damage.
Tearing, bleeding, and anal fissures are unavoidable side effects of anal sex. Though usually minor, these problems can lead to infection due to the bio-active environment of the anus.
The danger of using anal numbing lubricants is that these issues may go unnoticed when they occur, leading to further damage when there is no time out called on the delightful pounding your ass is receiving.
Now, with that unpleasantness out of the way, let's get down to the good stuff...
Who Is It Good For?
Anal numbing lubes are probably most attractive to men that are new to bottoming. Nobody starts off as an Olympic grade athlete on their first day at the gym, and nobody is going to be taking home the gold medal in the anal Olympics their first time either. Both take more than a bit of training to achieve the physical state required to be a true champ.
Think of anal desensitizers as a performance enhancing drug for your ass. It will allow you stretch your limits just a little beyond what you thought you might be capable of, allowing you to improve the elasticity of your hole without all of the discomfort and soreness of a beginner.
If you are training up your hole using toys, this may just be the perfect thing to help you get where you need to be to hang with the heavyweight tops of the world.
It is also a good thing to have around if you happen to pick up a guy who's swingin' some serious meat that is larger than you are accustomed to. Something you can go to in a pinch to allow you to accommodate a surprisingly gifted playmate.
I myself love to get on top and ride like a crack-addled rodeo star, but sometimes I have a problem doing that with a partner who's got a magnum in the holster. In a situation like that, I would just be out of luck if it wasn't for these products.
As much as I like to ride, at a certain point it too much is just too much, no matter how much I want too much to be just enough- but with anal numbing lube, too much can feel pretty damn good.
Basically, anal desensitizers are the perfect thing for anyone who is trying to attempt insertions beyond their physical comfort zone. Whether it is simply because you are new to the wonderful world of anal sex, you are pleasantly surprised by a gifted partner, or you just have an overly sensitive ass, anal numbing lube is a nearly perfect tool to allow you to get where you need to be. Nearly perfect...
Well, the most obvious drawback of anal numbing lubes is, paradoxically, the same as the property that makes it so great, it numbs. While this may be great for the bottom trying to avoid the occasional discomfort of anal insertion, it's not so great for the top who gets some on his member, for obvious reasons.
Furthermore, it can rob the bottom of much of the sensation of being well pounded. It works just as well to numb the bad as the good.
It can also be a bit unpleasant if it comes into contact with the mouth during oral play. Nobody wants to feel like they just got out of the dentist's chair when they are trying to bob on a knob.
Another problem with these products is that many people report various unpleasant sensations when the product is first applied. Personally, I experience a rather unpleasant burning sensation when the anal numbing lube is first applied and hasn't taken effect yet.
Other people have reported a wide variety of sensations when the product is first applied, everything from an intense itchiness to an unpleasant mentholated feeling. These sensations tend to pass once the product takes effect, but for some people, this may be a deal breaker.
Really it is up to you to decide if the discomfort you are trying to avoid by using these products is worse than the temporary initial discomfort of their application. It might be best to try a few different brands and active ingredients to find the one that works best for you. If none of the benzocaine/lidocaine based products work for you, there are alternatives...
Though I have never tried them myself, there are alternative products that come highly recommended for helping you ease the discomfort of anal sex. Most of them fall under the category of "anal relaxants".
The benefits of these products are that instead of numbing the nerves to ease discomfort, they relax the anal muscles to ease insertion. These products might be a good way to go for those who fear a loss of pleasurable sensation.
For all the polarized talk surrounding anal numbing agents, it basically boils down to whether or not it is right for you- it's a personal preference. Try a few out, see what works for you or doesn't, and decide for yourself.
As much as I hope this little guide helped you learn what you needed to about anal numbing lube, I imagine you'll have a lot more fun experimenting with it than reading about it! Happy hunting!