One of the biggest hang-ups guys have about sex is whether or not they are lasting long enough to satisfy their partner. In most cases, it's just a mild, nagging concern...

More like a feeling you could have done better but it was good all the same. For others, premature ejaculation is a serious, life-affecting problem that can lead to friction between partners in a relationship and even damage the mental health of the guy who is experiencing it.

No matter which side of that fence you find yourself on, I have some good news for you - There are solutions to help you last longer in bed and improve the quality and even quantity of your orgasms at the same time.

Whether you are experiencing premature ejaculation or you'd simply like to prolong the magic, there are ways to get what you want if you are willing to put in a little effort.

Many of the techniques are simple but require time and practice that a lot of guys aren't willing to pony up.

If you are willing to take the time to master some of these techniques, however, you will open up some pretty incredible new avenues of pleasure for both you and your partner(s).

A Few Words About Premature Ejaculation And Your Health 🍌

Premature ejaculation is commonly defined as ejaculation within or around one minute of penetration. One survey of 1500 men revealed that about 30% of men will experience this at some point in their lives.

The general consensus is that 1 in 3 men will experience it at some point, but this number is only an estimate because definitions of premature ejaculation vary.

In my opinion, if you feel like you are prematurely ejaculating, you are. It's kind of like good art, hard to define, but you know it when you see it.

The main thing I would like to point out here is that premature ejaculation has many causes, both physical and mental and if you are experiencing it, it could be a sign of something more serious. Some of the mental causes of premature ejaculation include depression, anxiety, and stress that can lead to all sorts of problems in a guy's life.

The physical causes can be even more alarming and include high blood pressure, thyroid issues, diabetes, and prostate disease.

The point is, if you find that you are experiencing premature ejaculation, especially when you haven't before, you might want to think about getting checked out by a doctor to ensure that it isn't a sign of a life-threatening condition or a symptom of profound or growing mental illness.

Well, with that depressing bit of business out of the way, let's move on to how you can actually keep your boys corralled until the time is right!

General Tips To Improve Ejaculation Control

Aside from the specific methods we will cover later, there are a few things to keep in mind in the general sense that will help lay the groundwork that makes those techniques successful. The first thing you need to learn is how to listen to your body.

1. Pay attention to the feeling right before you cum 💦

When you masturbate, pay attention to how it feels when you reach the point of no return. Pay attention to which muscles contract and to the sensations that lead up to the moment when you actually blow.

Having a solid familiarity with the nuts and bolts of your orgasm will help you employ the following techniques more effectively and help you get to where you want to be that much faster.

2. Relax, enjoy the moment, and don't overthink things

Secondly, you need to learn how to relax. One of the biggest mental causes of blowing your load too early is worrying about whether or not you are going to blow your load too early. This line of thinking can lead to a fucked up cycle where your anxiety over the problem only worsens it.

Just relax, keep chiseling away at the problem with these techniques, and try to have a sense of humor about it in the meantime, as hard as that can be.

3. Breath control is key to delaying ejaculation 😮

If you've done any other reading about this subject before now, you're probably tired of seeing people recommend breath control as a solution.

As boring as learning to control your breath can be for some people, there is a good reason that just about everyone with an opinion on the matter will recommend it- It works. Not only does it work, it is a foundation for some of the other techniques we will cover and mastery of your breath will lead to quicker mastery of those techniques.

The trick to controlling your breath lies in how you breathe. A good inhalation doesn't end at your lungs, you need to "breath into your stomach." This means long, slow breaths that push out your abdomen as well. Obviously, you aren't actually taking air into your stomach, it's more about the muscles you work as you breathe in and how you exaggerate that motion gently as you inhale and exhale.

When you masturbate, there will come a point where you know that ejaculation is "inevitable." 

You're looking for that twitching, tugging, pulsing, tingly feeling you get right before you blow.

When you feel this sensation taking hold, begin to take slow, deep breaths right down into your stomach and until the sensation passes.

Then resume masturbating until it happens again. Then, repeat the process.

As time goes on and you gain mastery over the technique, you will find you will begin to develop sub-conscious control over your orgasm. Which is to say, it's tough to get started out because you are thinking about all of this stuff at a time where you should be enjoying the moment but with a little time and practice, you'll get to the point where it is automatic and you don't have to focus on it.

The main thing here is not to get discouraged and keep practicing. There! You have a license to jerk off as much as you like! It's for self-improvement, after all!

4. Kegels exercises will help prevent ejaculation even if you are close...🍆

Another common suggestion you will find, for good reason, is to exercise your Kegel muscles. The Kegels are the muscles that make up your pelvic floor and are a big part of the general day-to-day functions in your downstairs mix-up.

The first step of Kegel exercises is to figure out where your muscles are and how to flex them. Luckily this is super easy because any guy who has ever had to interrupt his flow while taking a leak has done just that.

The next time you urinate, interrupt the flow and take note of the muscles you flexed to do so. These are the muscles you will be working for the exercises.

Now that you know what they are and how to work them, you can start your exercises.

 All you have to do is flex and hold those muscles for a solid three count.

We're talking the full " one one thousand" here, no cheating! After three seconds, release the tension and wait for another three count and repeat that process until your muscles are tuckered out and pack it in until later. Repeat this exercise throughout the day.

The real magic comes in when you tense those muscles up as orgasm approaches.

You can prolong or even completely prevent ejaculation with enough practice. The best way to get a feel for it is to practice it while you are masturbating because it is a no-pressure situation. 

5. Edging, or the stop and start technique, can teach you self-control and increase pleasure 👉🏼👌🏼

This is just a hip word for what used to be called the "start and stop technique", although there can be more to it than that once you get a good handle on how to do it.

Basically, this is a technique where you take yourself right up to the moment of inevitable ejaculation and ease back on the action that's got you about to blow. You then resume once the situation is under control.

More advanced edging involves using the Kegel and breath control techniques to surf that wave of inevitable ejaculation as long as possible so you can experience the intensely pleasurable sensations that come with it.

Self-control is key here.

You have to be able to just full-on stop what you're doing instead of charging ahead to the promised land if it is going to work. The best way to practice this technique is, again, while masturbating.

Another good tip for this technique is to invest in a masturbation sleeve to help build your endurance.

There are even strokers designed for this specific purpose, such as the OptiMale Endurance Trainer Ultraskyn Stroker or the Fleshjack Endurance Jack. Both are designed to give you as much control over the sensations you experience as possible so you can start to get a handle on controlling them. Again, patience, self-control, and a good attitude are your best friends here.

Lotion & Potions... 💦

There are also a number of effective products you can use to help you from ejaculating. Whether you use them to fill the gap between beginning and mastering these other techniques or you just aren't inclined to put in the effort, these products will do the job nicely.

There are a number of supplements you can use that contain some pretty potent ingredients that work with your physiology to help stave off ejaculation and generally increase sexual stamina and enhance erectile function at the same time.

There are also sprays and cremes that contain mild numbing agents that deaden the sensations that cause you to pop so you can keep going until they eventually fade.

The potency of these products is directly related to the amount of the active ingredient, often Lidoc@aine or Benz@ocaine.

Stronger formulas, like Stud 100 Male Genital Desensitizer have higher percentages of the ingredient in the formula. That formula has 9.6% Lido@caine, compared to a milder formula like Kama Sutra Prolong Performance Gel which contains only 5%.

The level of intensity you require is something you will have to figure out for yourself based on your personal needs and will probably require a bit of trial and error as you experiment with the various different formulas.

A simple and affordable alternative to delay cremes is to use condoms during sex. One of the reasons guys don't use condoms when they should is because it reduces sensation and makes sex feel "less good." In the case of premature ejaculation however, rubbering up may actually be your best friend.

If you and your man don't use condoms anymore because of Prep 💊or simply are in a committed relationship - using condoms in the beginning of sex can be a good strategy.

For the first couple of minutes (or hours 😜) of anal, use a condom. Then as things progress and you are ready blow your load - remove it.

For oral play, try flavoured condoms. 🍓

Final Thoughts

Ultimately, whether or not you can accomplish your goal of lasting longer in bed will depend on your willingness to put these techniques into practice and learn how to combine them in ways that are best suited to your needs.

In most cases, one thing isn't going to do the trick, you have to find the magic combo that works best for you.

Another thing that will help you along is a partner or partners who are sympathetic and understanding who will help and support you as you try to work through your problem. As much as I have advised you to practice alone, that is mainly meant to be a general rule for just starting out.

Sort of like training wheels until you find your balance and feel comfortable working with your partner to advance your cause.

The one final tip I would give that relates to the theme of working with your partner is to increase the amount and intensity of your foreplay. If you put in the effort to please your partner before penetration even comes into the mix, it will go a long way toward keeping them in your corner and supporting your efforts.

It will help them see that you actually care about their pleasure and show that you are putting in effort. This, in turn, will help them better support those efforts going forward because they won't have sexual frustration nagging at them throughout the process.

Whether it's a serious problem of premature ejaculation or you simply want to up your bedroom cache, you should have no problem getting there as long as you stick to your guns, knuckle down, and stay dedicated to your goal. You can do it! Nothing in life worth doing is ever easy!