A Newbie's Guide To Choosing Butt Plugs

August 30, 2019

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Say what you like about the pros and cons of modern life, but nobody will say we are starved for choice.

No matter what it is you are looking for, you can probably get it in any color of the rainbow, with your favorite band's label, any size you like, with Bluetooth compatibility and USB rechargeability. It doesn't matter if it's a toothbrush or a dildo, you have options.

While that scenario seems very liberating, in a general sense, it can also cause a sort of "paralyzation of choice".

Where do you even begin looking for the perfect butt plug when there is a functionally unlimited array of choices and options to consider?

For anal newbies looking to get into butt stuff, choosing their first butt plug might seem like it requires an advanced degree...

Maybe I'm exaggerating a bit but, seriously, there are a lot of different features and factors to choose from and it really can be a bit daunting for the uninitiated.

Like anything in life, however, the secret is knowing what you want and going for it.

Ultimately, only you know what you like and your final butt plug decision is going to be all you, but we can offer you a map of the territory to help you get to where you're going.

First, we'd like to say a few words about safety.

The Obligatory Safety Talk

Alright, nobody likes to be told their business, but we'd really like to take a moment to stress the importance of cleanliness and safety when it comes to anal adventuring. Nothing major, just a few tips to make sure you're safe and healthy going forward.

First of all, you need to make sure anything you put in your butt is clean and free of dangerous points or edges.

Mostly this means making sure your toys are clean, your fingernails are trim, and your hands are clean.

You also want to make sure that anything you put in your basement can easily be brought back out.

When it comes to anal toys, this basically means making sure there is a flared base or some other means external means of retrieval, such as the string on a set of anal beads or a perineum-stimulating tab on a prostate stim.

This is extremely important because, while you have control over your outer sphincter, your inner sphincter is a whole other animal.

If a toy gets lodged past your inner sphincter, you are probably going to need medical assistance to remove it because the stress of a "lost" toy will have you clenched up tighter than a latex body suit. Which brings us to our next point...

Finally, and possibly most importantly, lube.

You need, full stop!

Not only are you going to need lube, you're going to need a lot of it. Not all lube is created equal and there is a lot to consider when choosing the best lube for you and how you play.

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With that in mind, check out this guide to anal lube to get a feel for what's best for you. Seriously, the more lube you use, the happier your hole will be!

Anal Anatomy And The Importance Of Relaxation

Relaxation is the key to anal pleasure. I'll say that again: relaxation is the key to anal pleasure. The sooner you lock that into your mind the sooner you'll be on your way to the anal pleasure promised land. Here's a quick rundown of why it is so important.

The more relaxed you are, the less strain you will be putting on your sphincter and the more resilient it will be overall.

That means you'll experience less of the uncomfortable stretching sensations and more pleasurable of the ones in their place.

It's also important because that inner sphincter we talked about earlier isn't on your conscious-control circuit breaker and relies on an overall sense of relaxation to open up properly.

If you want to go deep, you need to lull that stubborn bastard into a sense of security.

The other major reason that relaxation is key to anal pleasure is tied to another part of your anal anatomy, your prostate.

The prostate, also known as the male G-spot, is a gland found inside your anal cavity that is surrounded by an intense cluster of tightly packed nerves.

Every aspect of effective, pleasurable prostate massage is improved through relaxation and a prostate orgasm is nearly impossible unless you are in the right frame of mind.

That's basically the long and short of why relaxation is key. If you'd like a more in-depth breakdown of how to improve your anal experience, check out our complete painless anal and prostate massage guides. Now, on to the butt plugs!

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What To Look for In a Beginner's Butt Plug

There are pretty much two major reasons people like butt plugs, the feeling of "fullness" and the prolonged sensation of stretching they provide. If you're a total anal newbie, you probably want to save the "stretching" sensation until you are a little more advanced in your anal training.

This is because the stretching sensation is dependent on the width of the butt plug's neck.

This is the part directly below the base of the plug that remains surrounded by your sphincter once the plug is in place. The wider it is, the more stretched out you will feel.

When it comes to the level of stretch you like in your plug, it's better and safer to work your way up than to start big and work down.

Otherwise, you run the risk of some pretty unfortunate side effects like anal tearing, for starters. Nobody wants that...

As far as "fullness" is concerned, this is all up to the size of the plug's bulb.

More bulbous plugs will be harder to pass through your sphincter, but will give you a more intense feeling of "fullness". Again, it is best to work your way up to the bigger stuff until you find your limit to avoid discomfort or actual physical harm.

You should always be pushing your boundaries, but never to the point of actual pain.

So, What's Best For Beginners, then?!

Alright, alright, I am going on a lot about safety and what to look for, but not actually making any suggestions.

Honestly, the best choice for a beginner would probably have to be an anal training kit.

These kits are basically just a collection of butt plugs, each of an increasingly challenging size.

These kits are the perfect way to start off small and work your way up without too much fussing around finding the right plug for your level.

You just use the first one until you can take it easily and then move on up to the next largest size.

This process is repeated until the biggest plug is no problem and you can move on to something more advanced. The Blush Beginner Plug Kit or this anal training kit from Mood would be great places to start.

Blush Luxe Beginner Plug Kit

In general, however, you will want your first plug to be tapered at the tip for easier insertion, gradually flared to a receivable width, and it should have a thin neck to ease into the sensation of stretching.

Finally, only buy butt plugs that have a flared base for safety.

Plugs without a flared base can easily get "lost" in your funhouse, like we mentioned earlier. Save yourself the doctor's bill and always get safe toys that only go as deep as they should!

Mood Naughty 1 Anal Trainer Set

If you'd like a more in-depth rundown of how to train up your hole, our anal training guide has all of the answers you need!

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Where Do I Go From There?

Once you've outgrown your butt plug training wheels, you're probably going to want to refine your tastes a bit.

This is when you will want to start experimenting with plugs that provide more stretch and "fullness."

This is where the rubber meets the road, as far as nailing down what it is you like and then going for it.

I'm sure that during your time with your beginner's plug, you got to experience the "shallow" end of the butt plug sensations pool and probably have a good idea of what blows your hair back.

If you really dig on the feeling of fullness, you might want to try picking up a plug with a heavy, bulbous head to really maximize that sensation.

Something like this weighted butt plug from B-vibe would do the trick nicely. It has a satisfyingly bulbous head whose shape makes it a little easier to insert than many other choices, as well as being weighted for an extra sense of "fullness' and some added internal movement to tickle your P-spot.

The slim neck also means you won't experience nearly as much stretching. It's a great plug for focusing on "fullness" exclusively.

B-Vibe Snug Butt Plug 1

If fullness isn't doing it for you and you like the stretching feeling more, something like the Forto F-98 Plug is probably more your bag.

It has a satisfyingly bulbous head and a nice, thick neck that'll keep you wide open and feeling stretched without going too far. It comes in 3 sizes, you can achieve the perfect fit.

Forto F-98 Plug

If you're looking for something that has the best of both worlds, the Ram inflatable butt plug might be just the thing to do the trick.

At its un-inflated size, it has a super-satisfying girth at the neck and a textured, varied-shaped head that is both pleasurable going in and fills you up nicely once placed.

Since it is inflatable, you can customize the size on the fly for pinpoint accuracy. Throw in the vibration function and you've got yourself a great intermediate plug that has it all.

Ram Inflatable Vibrating Butt Plug

The Sky's The Limit

Once you've hit the intermediate level, finding and pressing your limits should be second nature and you would be the best judge of how to move ahead.

There are some pretty extreme butt plug designs out there that have all sorts of added functionality to experiment with.

That's the key right there, though, experimentation. Once you know what you like and how to get it, the only thing left to do is go out there and fuckin' get it.

Get wild!

If you like the idea of extreme insertions, pick up something extremely challenging, like this gentle giant from Kink or the incredibly intimidating, yet extremely satisfying Mega Insta Gaper.