11 Tips to Turn Your Blowjob Game Up
Blowjobs can be one of the most underrated or "taken for granted" practices when it comes to sex, mainly because a lot of people can focus on the wrong thing when sucking dick (or when getting head, receivers can also be at fault, you know?), and because anal sex is perceived widely as "real sex." In contrast, oral sex is perceived more like an appetizer or a side dish instead of a full meal.
Don't get me wrong, though, it's ok for some oral play before going to pound-town, or just a quick blow to keep your hornyness in check, but if that's the only way in which you're living your oral life, then you're missing on a lot! It doesn't matter if you're the one getting it or giving it; oral sex can be a mind-blowing sexperience with the right mindset and the proper skill set.
So, whether you're a noob that's just discovering how to love a cock with his mouth or an expert just looking for ways to change things up a bit, I've compiled a list of tips and tricks to level up your blowjob game and have the most cumtastic time.
1. Don't rush
In the immortal words of gay icon Wallace from Scott Pilgrim Vs. The world: "It's not a race, guys!". If you're like me, you've probably watched your fair share of gay porn, so it's normal for you to think that good head starts lighting fast and with deepthroating right off the bat. If that's what you think, you're 100% WRONG.
While those two things can be a winning combo, a mind-bending blowjob starts slow; think of it as making love to your partner's dick with your mouth: start by licking and kissing the tip, gently caressing the shaft with your hands, and maybe even licking up and down the shaft, making sure the other guy gets fully hard in the process. You could even do little pinches or tickle the shaft softly while licking the glans, creating various simultaneous sensations that can be very stimulating. Savor the moment; you're sucking a dick, not a lollipop. Enjoy it, and that'll be sure to please the receiver.
Once you're entirely sure your partner is as hard as he can get, then it's time to start sucking harder.
2. Go easy on yourself
Not even a lot of pornstars can deepthroat, so why should you? If that's something you and your partner are into (or even just you because you get off on showing off your skills, which is totally fine, by the way), and you're good at it, then, by all means, go for it! For the rest of us mortals, it can be pretty hard to do, let alone do it during the whole ordeal. Your mouth and hands can create incredible, exciting sensations on a dick without the need for you suffocating, all teary-eyed, wondering if you'll be that one gay who'll end up in the news under the embarrassing "dies from lack of breathing while sucking dick" headline.
The less pressure you put on yourself, the more focus you can put into the dick in your mouth, which in turn means more overall pleasure for your partner.
3. Don't be afraid to use your hands
Yes, it's oral sex, but it doesn't mean you use just your mouth for it. The best blowjobs use a combination of hands and mouth to better pleasure the receiver while also allowing you to suck for longer.
Trust me, if you're just using your mouth, you're bound to get tired faster, and the blowjob will lose quality little by little. There's no worst feeling than a guy "taking matters into his own hands" to finish off, and that happens not because it's taking too long (if you're doing things right, the receiver will want for it to last forever), but because the blow is getting boring. It doesn't matter if your mouth is the most skilled cock-sucking mouth in the whole world, it has limits on the kind and amount of sensations it can give a dick.
If you're sucking off someone you hook up regularly with, you should take a mental note on how they stroke their cock when masturbating and then try to emulate that with your mouth and hand to enhance the experience. Not all guys jerk off the same, so this pro tip can help you customize the experience to the dick currently in your mouth and maximize pleasure.
Also, consider using your hands for more than just stroking. Yes, matching your strokes with your mouth movements is a great idea, but don't forget that a good cock-sucker pays attention to more than just the dick. Use one hand to stroke, and use your other to cup his balls, caress them, and even go lower and rub the perineum (the perineum is the area that's between the balls and the anus, a susceptible and erogenous zone that produces fantastic sensations when played with).
You can even play with the outside area of his hole and, if he's into that, finger him and apply pressure from the inside to the prostate. That will make sure his cock starts leaking some yummy pre-cum, so you'll know you're doing a good job.
4. A sloppy blowjob is a winning blowjob
There's no better lube when sucking dick than your spit, so don't be afraid to get sloppy! The wetter, the better! Spit on it, drool over it, leave that delicious cock dripping with your saliva to create less friction and make your partner feel like he's in heaven.
If you're prone to getting your mouth dry, have some water close and try some mouth-watering candy (like mints) to get the saliva rolling. Remember, when sucking dick, there's no such thing as too much spit.
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5. Get creative
Speaking of minty candy, have you tried giving a blowjob with one of those super strong mint candies in your mouth? It's not for everyone; it can get too intense for your partner (or for you too! Girl, I've burned my tongue more times than I'm proud to admit with those fuckers), but this is one way to change things up sometimes and create very different sensations for him. You could also try sucking an ice cube before sucking his dick; while it's also a cold sensation, it's not the same.
You can also play with some sweet things (sometimes more for your benefit than for his, but hey! You're the one giving him all the pleasure, so you deserve to enjoy it just as much), like dripping some maple syrup on his cock and make it taste delicious. It will get sticky, though, but even the texture of the syrup can create unique sensations for your partner.
Just be careful not to use anything spicy or that can have numbing effects; trust me, spicy things on the dick will have your partner begging the Lord to take his life instead, and numbing can make him lose all feeling for a while, which in turn gets the erection down.
6. Don't forget the balls!
One of the most common things, even amongst us gay guys, is to center our entire focus on the glorious penis in front of us and forget that testicles are also a very erogenous and sensitive zone that deserves some love as well. So, take breaks from sucking and lick your way down to the balls, kiss them, lick them, and even gently suck on them (just don't be too rough, unless your partner asks you to, because as mostly every male in the world knows, they can hurt pretty bad). It would be best if you also licked the perineum and even gently bite it. If you and your partner are into it, rimming his hole a little before coming back to keep sucking cock also really enhances the experience.
7. Be careful with the teeth!
If you love sucking cock as much as I, you can get lost in the moment and, even if you're a pro, graze the glans with your teeth and cause a lot of pain to your partner. So, even though I encourage you to enjoy sucking dick as much as possible, always, and I mean ALWAYS, pay close attention to what you're doing with your mouth and how you're covering your teeth. Most guys usually fold their lips inward to protect the teeth, but whatever your technique is, just be sure to avoid touching the dick with them (again, unless your partners like that, I can't understand why someone would like it, though, but hey! I'm not judging, you do you!).
8. Try different positions
While the most common thing to do is to get on your knees in front of your partner (whether he's standing or sitting), there are many more ways to suck cock. Switching it up is not just for his benefit (because other positions allow for more cock to enter your mouth easier), it's also for yours! Being on your knees for a long time can be exhausting! Trust me, I know!
If you want to get as much cock in your mouth as possible, then try lying flat on the bed and then hanging your head over the edge; that way throat-fucking gets easier (for both of you) and you get to rest your knees for a bit.
The 69 position is also good to change it up a bit, even if your partner doesn't suck you off at the same time. If his dick curves upward, a 69 position is way more comfortable for you to get as much dick in your mouth as possible.
9. Use some toys!
I know not every gay under the sun likes things up their butt (they're missing out, but whatever), but using toys doesn't necessarily mean butt play. You can use a vibrator and gently press it over your partner's shaft while sucking the head, creating very pleasurable and intense sensations for him. Just don't put the vibrator to maximum speed; the super vibrating dick in your mouth feels weird if you do.
If they do like some anal play (even if they're total tops), you could try a prostate massager, some anal beads, or a simple butt plug and play with his hole while sucking his dick. If you do, you're sure to give him a more powerful orgasm.
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10. Spitters are not quitters!
Look, I love cum just as much as the next guy, but I personally prefer when a guy comes over my face rather than in my mouth. Don't ask me why; I don't understand it, nor do I question it, cum on my face excites me like nothing else. Why am I telling you this? Because I'm trying to help you understand that even cum lover gays don't always swallow, so don't feel pressured to do so! If you don't mind having him cum in your mouth, ask him anyway, it can be exciting to hear the words "where do you want to cum?"; it empowers your partner and makes it sexier.
But, even if he does cum in your mouth, you're not obligated to swallow; you can spit without any shame. You can even spit it back to the glans and use it as lube to keep rubbing his cock a little longer. If you're the one getting the blowjob, don't be that guy! If he says he won't swallow, respect his wishes and just enjoy him worshipping your cock. In the end, he's doing most of the job so, just be grateful for whatever he does.
Remember, even though you're the one giving the blowjob, this is a two-person experience, so don't be afraid to speak up and stop things you don't want.
11. Enjoy yourself!
This tip is VERY IMPORTANT. If you're enjoying sucking dick, it shows and makes the experience more pleasurable for your partner (and, obviously, for yourself). Don't be afraid to speak with your mouth full, throw manners to the wind and let him know how much you love sucking his cock, moan, groan, take it out, slap your face with it, look him in the eyes and let him know how good his cock tastes and how much you love eating it. Doing this will make him feel empowered, and, come on, who doesn't love hearing how great his cock is?
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So, next time you're about to suck on a delicious piece of man-meat, try to apply all this tips and see how he'll start squirming in ways you've never made him squirm before. Remember, practice makes perfect, so go and suck as much dick as possible and strive to be the best!
