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Ejaculation Etiquette: 6 Spots to Blow Your Load (with Consent)

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We all love sex and let’s face it, orgasaming is arguably the best part. But unless you have regularly fucked the person you’re about to cum with (even then there may be some titbits that would surprise you!), you will need to know some rules and expectations.

Here we will talk about what to expect and what is expected of you.

We will be looking as though it is a top cumming from having their cock stroked, sucked of fucked.

Almost all of these are applicable to bottoms as well and we will be looking at those situations separately.

You will find that most of this is about communication.

By talking with your top or bottom, you will be able to set expectations and have a fun time without worrying about ending on a bad note.

As a versatile guy, I have been on the receiving and giving end and so most of these are from personal experiences along with some close friends divulging (often with too much drink involved).

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Sometimes it’s just easier to cum inside of him.

You shoot and you score, as simple as that. As you can imagine, this is not something that you would do lightly, and should always discuss this beforehand. You want to have a degree of trust and would personally only do this in a monogamous relationship.

Depending on the specific situation, you might want to take some PrEP too to reduce the risks. Once you have unloaded in his ass, pull out slowly so that it is not too painful, and this reduces the risk of spillage. It will also have the glorious sensation of your bottom feeling stretched one last time.

Once successfully out, your bottom will go to the bathroom to clean up.

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If some spills while you are pulling out or while your bottom is going to the bathroom, it is on you to clean that up. Remember that this is an ass that you have just fucked so the muscle may be a little worn out and you may need to clean up some dribbles.

A pro tip would be to have a towel beneath your bottom while pulling out to reduce the chances of ruining the bedsheets.

Ejaculation Etiquette: Remember what you both agreed, if you promised to no cum inside of him, don’t do it. If you are not sure if you can pull out in time, use a condom.

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Wrap it up

Condoms are a must for safe sex and are also handy for clean up too!

Two birds with one stone here.

When you just want to lose yourself in the moment and not have to worry about STDs or if your bottom wants your load inside him or not, just use a condom.

A condom can also have the added bonus of helping tops with tight foreskin to enjoy fucking more.

This would be because the condom acts as a foreskin for your now unsheathed head. Just remember to use plenty of lube to reduce tearing!

Ejaculation Etiquette: When you cum in the condom, make sure to ease out gently and pull the condom off while you are hard. Tie up the condom and dispose of it in the bin. By doing this while you are hard, there is a reduced chance of spillage and will make the whole process much cleaner.

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Cumming on a guy’s face has always had mixed reviews.

Some guys are really into it and others are either hesitant or downright disgusted by it.

I have always found it best to get to know someone if they are into it before doing it. I would never try it on a first date, it would quite literally be a shot in the dark and can be a bit of a deal breaker for some guys.

If you do want to do it and your guy is on board, there are a few things to be aware of.

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First is to make sure that you avoid the eyes, getting cum in your eyes hurts like hell and can definitely ruin the mood. The nose can be a bit tricky too as if you flood the nostrils it can feel like you are drowning and again sorta puts a dampener on the atmosphere. The best place to go for are the forehead, cheeks or mouth.

The mouth adds more eroticism if you want to take it a step further, a cum kiss. Just lean down and kiss him with your cum in his mouth. Could be an interesting experience!

Ejaculation Etiquette: Remember to discuss permission to cum on his face. If you are both open to experimentation or want to try something intimate, why not try a cum kiss?

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In his mouth

Having your mind blown and blowing your load from a blowjob is the best. It’s relaxing and sometimes it’s nice to just sit back and let it happen.

It can also be a convenient way to keep you nice and tidy.

Even though this is a pretty standard form of sex between two guys (or more if you’re lucky!) you should still be aware of how comfortable your sucker is with swallowing or not.

Though it is lower risk from STDs in general you should be aware that to be at a lowest risk as possible, you should wear a condom during oral.

If you are cumming and he is not comfortable with cum in his mouth, give him some sort of sign. Usually a grunt or even just saying it out loud. He will probably switch to hands and you can go from there. If he is happy for you to cum in his mouth, all good and let him decide if he wants to spit or swallow.

If you are throat fucking him, you need to be aware if he wants you to pull out or not. This can be a little trickier than a blowjob as it is fucking you are doing. Just in a hole that can talk back!

Ejaculation Etiquette:  Be aware of how comfortable your sucker is and don’t put your hands on his head to force him down on your cock.

Not only is this really disrespectful if not previously agreed but also do you really want to piss someone off if their teeth are right beside your junk?

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This may seem a no brainer but there can be a couple of things to think through. The most immediate thing is whether or not there is hair involved.

If your bottom is a bear, cub or otter, then cumming on his chest may be a bit problematic.

Ever tried cleaning cum out of a legitimately hairy chest? It ain’t happening.

While fairly easy to wash out in the shower, some guys can be put out by this, so it is always a good idea to be upfront and honest if your bottom is a hairy one.

Splattering onto his stomach can leave some guys feeling used if you do nothing after that so it’s important to be a responsible top and make sure you look after your bottom and give them attention after you have fucked him.

As a bottom, you may have just had bareback sex and are now thinking about expelling your load. By squatting over your top, you can let it drip down on top of him.

Some guys find this a real turn out to see their cum dripping down on them. Again, just be aware if the guy you’re dripping on is hairy or not.

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Clothes and bedsheets

Bedsheets have never been that much of an issue for me, if you mess them up just throw them into the wash.

There are however some guys who will freak out if you ruin their bedsheets and let’s face it, dressing the bed from scratch can be a chore. If you are ever unsure, having a towel at the ready can really make things easier for you.

Not only does this mean that you can shoot your load onto a towel, you can use it to help clean your bottom.

Clothes can be tricky business because it often depends on the occasion and the piece of clothing you cum on.

If you are in private, you probably pretty ok to go wherever so long as it is not dark clothing or clothes you don’t want slightly stained. If you are in public, it is a whole different ball game. Depending on how much you are both into voyeurism, you will need to be discrete with where you cum on him.

As to cum in some spots, like the shoulder of his shirt, it can be pretty obvious what has just happened. But it can be a turn on for some guys so see what happens! You are also more likely to cum on clothes in public than you are in private.

If your bottom is wearing anything other than jeans, they will be easily stained and might be a pain to wash.

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The most important thing to be communicative with your partner and to be appreciative of both your and his boundaries.

Sex is meant to be enjoyed and if you both respect each other’s comfort levels, it can be a wonderful experience for you and him both. Enjoy!

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