Male Masturbation: 4 Tips To Better Self-Pleasure
They say that anything worth doing is worth doing right. While that is probably true, I prefer to think that anything worth doing is worth overdoing, especially when it comes to the topic at hand, masturbation.
If all you think of when you think of masturbation is stroking off as quickly as you can to blow off some steam, you're really not doing it right.
If you take the time to treat masturbation more like an event and less like a thing that you do to get it out of the way, you will experience benefits that extend to other areas of your life, sexual and otherwise.
Every batch of man-batter that you whip up in a hurry is a wasted opportunity for increased pleasure and, at the risk of sounding bombastic and new-agey, personal and sexual growth. Besides, who would pass up the chance to make something as good as an orgasm even better?
"What's better than an orgasm?!", you're probably wondering.
Well, multiple orgasms, for starters! That's just one of the benefits we'll be covering in this guide but first, let's cover some basics.
What is Male Masturbation?
It seems like a fairly straightforward question but like most things, it is more complex than it appears. Ask most guys that question and they will likely say something about jerking a dick until it squirts.
While technically true, it's a pretty gross over-simplification - There can and should be more to it than that!
Hell, most dictionaries pretty much give the same definition of masturbation, defining it as something like "the manual manipulation of the external genitalia for sexual gratification".
To me, that's a definition of masturbation, not a definition of good masturbation.
My definition of good masturbation would be something like, "the manual stimulation of the external genitalia, erogenous zones, and/or prostate for the purpose of sexual gratification".
It's a seemingly small change of wording that carries significant impact.
The addition of those extra few extra words transforms masturbation from a results-based, biological activity, like taking a shit, to an exercise in getting to know yourself and your body more intimately.
It's the difference between wolfing down a meal without tasting it and savoring every delicious bite like it was your last.
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Why You Should Care
It would be really easy to throw up your hands and declare that the grip it and rip it method works just fine for you, but you might not realize what you're missing out on by being so flip about jerking off.
There are some tangible benefits that come with practicing more mindful self-pleasure.
First of all, it can improve your sex with others. By learning what makes you tick sexually, you can be better equipped to communicate those desires to partners once things heat up.
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You will also be more confident in those desires and in your body the more you familiarize yourself with them.
You can also learn what pleases your partner by applying what you know about the things that make you feel good to the act of pleasing them.
Mindful masturbation can also help guys overcome erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation issues by retraining the body to react to stimulation differently through the use of edging and other techniques we will cover later.
Regular ejaculation has even been shown to decrease the likelihood of prostate cancer!
Finally, a really good jerk-off session can do wonders for your mental health. There is a big difference between the way you feel after a nice, long self-pleasure session and the way you feel after you hurriedly snap one off before passing out on the couch binging Netflix.
Mindfully stimulating your erogenous zones and pressing all of the right buttons produces those nice brain chems that chill you out and make you feel good.
The better you are at manipulating your body into producing those chemicals, the better you will feel when you climax. It's as simple as that!
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Tips And Techniques For Better Masturbation
Now that the boring stuff is out of the way, we can get down to the nitty-gritty. Here are a few techniques you can use to improve your self-pleasure game and get more out of your "me time".
1. It's Not A Race
The first thing most guys need to be told is to slow the fuck down. A lot of guys bust out the tissues and lube and just start beating their meat like it owes them money right out of the gate. This is bad for a couple of reasons.
First off, you are training your body to sprint to the finish line.
This could lead to being quicker off the mark with partners than you'd like to be and could even lead to a case of full-blown pre-mature ejaculation.
Secondly, you don't give yourself the chance to actually feel what's going on with your body when you rush through it.
Not only that, you get stuck in ruts and start to train your body to only react to certain stimuli by simply "doing what works" every time you jerk off. Lots of stuff works just as well or better but you'll never know unless you try!
2. It's Not All About Your Dick
dovetailing nicely with the idea of slowing down is the notion that your sexual pleasure is linked to so much more than just your wang!
Even within the context of your juicy dangler, there are different areas with different levels of sensitivity that can all be used to increase your pleasure.
Brush up on the anatomy of your penis and try to pay attention to different parts of it and how they feel when you stimulate them.
Beyond that, branch out and explore other erogenous zones.
Play with your balls! Pinch your nipples! Caress your thighs! Whatever!
Just get comfortable with the idea of exploring what makes you feel good and, more importantly, take the time to actually do the exploring you've become comfortable with. There is always room for growth!
3. Get To Know your Prostate
Speaking about being open to exploration, if you haven't gotten to know your prostate, it's time to make a play date!
The prostate is a gland found a few inches deep into your rectum that, in addition to other things, can be stimulated to produce the most intense male orgasms possible. It's considered the male equivalent of the female G-spot.
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— goldboy (@goldboy95) July 23, 2019
Learning to massage this gland properly is easily the best way to take your masturbation game to a whole new level you didn't even know existed. Multiple, intense orgasms can be achieved with a little practice and patience.
Prostate massage is a whole topic unto itself and requires a whole article just to crack the surface.
If you'd like to learn everything you need to know about getting acquainted with your prostate, check out our complete prostate massage guide for the lowdown!
3. Take It To The Edge
Edging is a technique that involves bringing yourself right up to the point of orgasm and then holding off until the sensation subsides before starting to masturbate again.
This process is then repeated until you feel like blowing a load or you can't hold off any longer.
The reasons for doing this are twofold. first off, it is a great method for endurance training...
Practicing this technique teaches you to recognize the sensations leading up to uncontrollable orgasm and how to better control them. It gets your body used to the idea of waiting until it gets the go-ahead before popping off. This leads to an increase in sexual stamina and staying power.
The second way this practice is useful is that it allows you to build up to some pretty outrageously powerful orgasms.
By the time you've worked yourself up to orgasm and held off four or five times, you'll be chomping at the bit for that final, tear-jerking release!
Gear Up!
If you really want to up your masturbation game, you're gonna need some toys!
These days, there are all sorts of gadgets and gizmos to help you jerk off in high style. Some of these items have really practical uses that aid sexual function beyond simply offering increased pleasure.
1. Lube
Lube, for example, is an essential addition to any guy's tool kit. Most of the other toys would be useless or downright awful without it and flyin' dry during anal sex is definitely a recipe for disaster. It's important to make sure that you pick the best lube for your tastes that is also compatible with any other toys you might be using.If you need to brush up on lube, our lube guide has all of the info you need to make the right choices and find your ideal lube.
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2. Prostate Play
If you are planning on exploring your prostate, fingers work but not that well. Ideally, you would pick up a good prostate stimulator to make things easier and more pleasurable.
These toys are ergonomically designed to reach and stimulate the prostate gland, often without the use of hands, as efficiently and effectively as possible.
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3. Strokers & Sleeves
Edging techniques are also more effective and pleasurable if you use a good stroker, like a Fleshlight or Tenga Egg. These toys are usually soft, textured sleeves designed to stimulate the penis when it is inserted.
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They are a great way to turn up the heat and increase stimulation when masturbating or to increase the difficulty of edging for training purposes.
4. Cock Rings
Finally, cock rings. Cock rings are a simple, inexpensive way to add a whole lot of sensation to your sexytime, solo or otherwise.
These are soft or hard rings that are placed around the penis and/or testicles to allow blood to flow in but not out. The increased presence of blood boosts sensation, as well as prolonging erections.
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For the full rundown on cock rings, check out our complete guide to cock rings!
If you're new to the idea of sex toys and they seem a bit scary, our guide to the best sex toys for newbies should help demystify them and get you equipped for some serious fun.
Final Thoughts
As you can see, there is more to masturbation than meets the eye and the rewards for those adventurous enough to go looking are pretty fuckin' nifty.
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— goldboy (@goldboy95) July 16, 2019
Even if you don't care about all of the extra benefits for your health and sexual prowess, you can at least appreciate a better orgasm! So, get out there and have some better orgasms already!
