Prostate massaging is an experience that gives you not only extracorporeal orgasms but also brings many benefits; that's why you should try it.
If you've heard about prostate stimulation and are curious about it, don't worry; we got your back(side). You might want to know many things about this sexual practice, and you may have multiple questions you might have if you're interested in trying it for the first time. So, here we made a list of Q&A so you can get those solved and start enjoying the marvels of prostate massage.
7 Things you need to know about prostate massage
1) Where's the prostate?
The prostate (AKA the male G-Spot, the P-Spot, or God's dirty little secret when creating men) is a small gland located about 2-5 inches inside your rectum. It is a small gland shaped like a walnut that you can find if you put a finger up your butt and try to reach your belly button from the inside.
It is part of our reproductive system for cisgender men and people assigned male at birth. It produces the seminal fluid that mixes with sperm to create semen. This magical gland is not only responsible for the most amazing orgasms you'll have in your life and the reason why anal sex can be so delicious for bottoms; It also helps your body produce cum. Can this little guy be even more perfect?
2) What's a prostate massage?
In simple terms: a prostate massage is a practice in which a finger or toy is inserted into the rectum to stimulate the prostate gland.
Yeah, that sounds pretty technical, but it means your prostate will receive manual stimuli that can feel heavenly good. This is because it is surrounded by nerve endings, making it a highly coveted area of pleasure.
People who have had an orgasm while getting their prostate stimulated will tell you that there's nothing compared to it. That it's an orgasm that sends delicious shivers up and down your spine, from head to toe. This is also known as "The Big O."
A prostate massage can be both clinical and sexual. While this process can help with multiple health issues, as would be massaging any muscle on your body, it provides fantastic sensations. It is also called "prostate milking."
3) How can you prepare for a prostate massage?
If you have a penis, there's a great chance you'll find prostate massaging a pleasurable experience. Still, as with any other sexual practice involving your butt, there're a few things to keep in mind to prevent any injury, irritation, or nasty incident.
Here's a list of things you can do to prepare to give yourself or a partner a prostate massage:
Trim your nails or file them to avoid rough edges that can cut, tear, or scratch the sensitive tissue of the rectum.
Take off all your rings. You don't want them to hurt in there, or worst, to make you have an embarrassing trip to the ER to get it removed.
You can wear a finger condom if you want an extra layer of protection. Latex or nitrile gloves can also be a great idea, and you're going to keep your hands clean and avoid spreading bacteria to your penis.
Soak your fingers with silicone or water-based lubricant.
If you prefer to use a sex toy, make sure it's clean and ready, whether it is manual (the ones that don't use batteries) or has vibrating functions.
Now, if you're receiving a prostate massage from yourself or from a partner, here are some things you can do to prepare:
Make sure your bladder and bowels are empty.
Use an enema or anal douche to clean yourself on the inside.
Wash your ass, please. Get those asscheeks clean with soap and water. You can also use baby wipes.
A towel can come in handy. Anal play can be messy, as it requires a lot of lube that can get on your floor or furniture. So, it's better to have a towel if you need to clean... and of course, in case shit happens (that's natural, so don't feel embarrassed if it does).
Never engage in a prostate massage if you have anal fissures or hemorrhoids.
4) How's the prostate massage process?
A prostate massage for sexual purposes can be fun and, of course, pleasurable, so here we tell you how you can do it step by step.
Get in the mood. You want to be calmed and relaxed, so do what you need to get into that state of mind. Take deep breaths, put on some soothing or sensual music, dim the lights, light some scented candles.
Use all the lube you need. As the anus doesn't self lubricate, you'll want it to be as slippery as possible using lube. Silicone-based lube lasts longer than water-based. Still, stick to water-based lube if you prefer to use a toy instead of fingers.
Slowly insert a lubed finger or toy up your (or your partner's) asshole. Don't go big out of the blue; start small, especially if you're new to this. Start with one or two fingers soaked in lube.
You'll find the P-spot around 2-5 inches inside the ass, on the front or anterior wall of the pelvis (meaning in the direction your belly button is). You'll identify it as a walnut-shaped gland.
Use a "come hither" motion to massage the prostate while applying moderate pressure. Don't do it too hard, just enough for it to feel good.
You can masturbate your dick while you're doing this to intensify the sensations, but try to focus on your butt.
With a toy, finger, or your partner's penis inside your butt, you can get your prostate stimulated. This will help achieve arousal, enhance an erection, and relax the rectum.
If having something up your butt feels like too much for you, you can also stimulate the prostate externally through the perineum; you know, the area between your ass and your balls. You can reach an orgasm this way, but it can be more difficult, so be patient and don't force it.
5) What sex toys can you use for a prostate massage?
Since you can stimulate your prostate with both a finger and a penis, you may think any phallic-shaped sex toy or any dildo can work for a prostate massage. That can be true, but it's only half the truth. Prostate massagers are the best choice for you if you want to do it with a sex toy; I mean, they're made specifically for that purpose.
Prostate massagers can be used when playing solo or having fun with a partner. They're specifically designed to hit the right spot. You can find a wide variety of these toys, from the ones that are simple and smooth to the ones with multifunction vibrating action.
We recommend you try, for example, the OptiMale P Massager. This little silicone-made dude will perfectly fit your b-hole and help you stimulate the prostate manually, both inside and out.
Suppose you're ready to expand your horizons and explore the wonders of prostate play. In that case, we suggest you try the Zero Tolerance Intro To Prostate Kit. This kit features four different toys that will take you through a progressive journey from gentle anal beads to a combination of a massager and a cock ring, culminating in the glorious vibrator toy. Could you ask for more?
Suppose you want even more from your prostate massaging experience. In that case, the Sensuelle Homme Rechargeable Prostate Massager is suitable for you. It has 3 speeds, 10 functions, and a texturized tip that'll make you cry in joy as you cum towards the sky. This curved anal sex toy's only con is that you won't want to live without it once you try it.
6) Does prostate massage bring any benefits?
Prostate massages can be an extremely pleasurable experience. Still, it also helps with dealing with a variety of health conditions, and that's why it's so recommended as a regular practice.
Here's a list of things prostate massages help deal with:
Erectile dysfunction: This means the inability to get or keep an erection firm enough for sex. Some experts support the theory that prostate massage helps fight erectile dysfunction. Still, there's not a ton of research behind it. However, prostate massaging improves blood flow when done vigorously, and erections result from good blood flow. So, it's understandable that prostate massages lead to better boners.
Prostatitis: Prostate swelling caused by an infection, injury, or immune system disorder. Medical studies have shown that performing a prostate massage several times a week (along with antibiotics) can help reduce the symptoms of prostatitis. You need to schedule those massages regularly and take your medications, and you'll see how prostatitis decreases.
Urinary hesitancy: When someone has trouble urinating or maintaining a regular pee stream. This is caused because the prostate begins to slowly grow when you turn 25. The prostate wraps around the urethra, so it puts pressure on it as it grows. A prostate massage can help prevent the prostate from growing too fast.
Benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH): It Develops when changing hormone levels cause the prostate to grow larger. Regular prostate massages combined with medications such as alpha-blockers and 5-alpha reductase inhibitors can help with the symptoms of this issue.
7) Does prostate massage have any risk or side effects?
Id does not. Prostate massage is entirely safe, and it only brings joy and benefits to your health and body. Still, this is when performed right, as if you're not careful enough, it can result in undesirable situations. The prostate and the tissue surrounding it are susceptible and delicate things, both a blessing and a curse.
The tissues surrounding the prostate and anus are incredibly delicate. They can get cuts, tears, and abrasions if you're not careful enough. If you use a finger with long nails or things get too rough, you can hurt the tissue and say goodbye to anal fun for a while. That's why using toys specially designed for this sensitive area is the best for this practice.
Being this sensitive means, you'll only need a little bit of stimulation to have a tremendous amount of pleasure. Still, it also means you can easily injure it. If you're not careful enough or stimulate it too hard or for too long, you can irritate your prostate and cause it to swell. In other words, you'll provoke prostatitis.
It's kind of ironic that you can help treat your prostatitis by getting prostate massages, but you can also provoke it if you don't do it right. Just be careful, and you'll be just fine.
Prostate massages are excellent for yourself. You can do them alone or with a partner; you can use sex toys or your fingers; you can give yourself a fantastic orgasm while you help your body be healthier. So, as long as you take care, prepare yourself as you ought to, and be mindful of your body, prostate massages will be the best that has happened to you sexually.