Essential BDSM Gear for Gays
BDSM is a kink that has become popular in recent years but if you are new to the game, it can be a little daunting on knowing where to begin. Today we are going to look at some essential BDSM gear for both beginners and some of you naughty boys with experience! As always, practice consent and as in previous blogs, make sure that you have an agreed safe word. While this can be a kinky activity and some guys get off on being in pain or uncomfortable, be aware of both your and your partners limits for maximum enjoyment.
Restraints
Of course, we have to start off with the classics. Restraints. If you are the kind of guy who likes to be in control or being submissive to a guy, these are a good starting point. They are also relatively easy to get out of so if you get uncomfortable, it can be fairly simple to stop everything.
Restraints can be as binding as you want them to be. Some are as simple as having velcro bindings and others are more sophisticated. The materials can vary from soft leather to hard metal.
Our Recommendations
Easy Toys Fetish Set wCollar, Ankle & Wrist Cuffs
This is a great toy for you if you want to keep your sub on a tight leash. Made from excellent material, it can take any of the abuse you throw its way. This toy is relatively straight forward and is a great introduction for you if you want to try something new. As you get more comfortable with this toy, you can mix it up with different toys to have even more fun!
Manbound Hog Tie & Cuff Set - 5 pc
This is a little more traditional, but it can be used for both a submissive top or bottom. If the hog tie is used behind your sub, you can go for a ride on his sausage. If you tie the hog tie in front, you can go for a ride on his bum. A win win really!
Gags
Sometimes a bit of peace and quiet is needed. And that can be when a gag can come in handy. Getting the right gag for your or your sub is important as it can really ruin the mood if your mouth gets dried out or injured! There are lots of materials out there for the restraint part of the gag, but we would recommend that for the gag itself to be silicone. Makes cleaning it a lot easier. And you are far less likely to have a reaction to it.
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Tantus Beginner Ball Gag
This is, as the name suggests, for beginners. What’s great about this particular gag is that it is almost like an adult pacifier for your sub. A great way to introduce anyone to having a gag. The gag itself is made from silicone that is medical grade A produced and is flavorless and odorless. What’s not to like about it?
Lektor Zipper Mouth Muzzle
Looking for something a little more full on? The Lektor Zipper Mouth Muzzle might be for you. This is not only a more advance piece of BDSM gear but also a great fashion statement! This muzzle covers the lower half of your face in black vinyl. It has a zippered mouth and has two holes punctured into the vinyl, making sure that you or your sub can breathe. Can’t have you suffocating too much!
Chastity Devices
Sometimes it can be a little fun to draw out the sexual tension, can’t it? While there are other ways of doing this, edging for example, there is another less hands on approach that could be a kinky twist. This is using a chastity device. The whole idea of this is that you can have your sub wear this and his hard on is contained. It can be deliciously frustrating to wear this as you can nip and tease your sub and he can’t get fully hard. The good thing about chastity devices for us guys is that there are holes to piss out of so they can be used for long term enjoyment. You can tease him all day long! Not to mention, if you keep his cock under lock and key, he can’t have fun with anyone else…
Our Recommendations
Mystim Pubic Enemy #1 Cock Cage
Sometimes seeing is believing and with this toy, you can keep an eye on his goods to make sure it doesn’t try to act up. This is a great toy to introduce your sub to a chastity device as not only is it adjustable for comfort but also latex and phthalate free. He can’t complain that you are not putting his comfort first! With an adjustable cock ring attached to it, the size of his balls doesn’t matter. Just slip on the cage, pull the balls forward a little and lock it down behind his balls. Now he can’t have any funny ideas! For a little extra fun, why not look at remote e-stimulation? If you think he’s getting a little too comfortable, a little zip aught to teach him a thing or two in complacency. This cock cage also comes with a small travel pack and so you can have fun no matter where you go.
6 Ring Locking Chastity Cage
This is for the big boys. At being six inches long, this is for the showers and not the growers. This chastity cage is also not for the faint-hearted. With rings of steel and a urethral plug (removable) attached to this chastity cage, this is an excellent teaching tool. Your sub will certainly know who is boss when you slip this on. The feel of cold unforgiving stainless steel will make your sub whimper as you tease him relentlessly. With similar instructions to the above cock cage, using the 6 Ring Locking Chastity Cage couldn’t be easier for you. As a precaution, you are also given three keys, couldn’t have your sub locked in that forever now could we?
Paddles and Whips
A good spanking every now and then can be a little fun. But before we delve into his topic, we need to make sure that everyone is on the same page with regards safety.
While spanking can be a great source of pleasure, it can also be dangerous. Especially when you get into the whipping territory. There are some areas that you should always avoid when spanking, joints and bony areas alongside soft tissue areas such as eyes. At worst hitting these areas can cause irreparable damage. So let’s be safe so we can all enjoy ourselves, shall we?
There are two main ways of looking at this. You can look at having a large surface area spanking or a small surface area spanking. When looking at what you’re interested in, it’s best to start with a large surface area spanking. This is not as intense, and it can be easier to see where your pain threshold is.
Large Surface Area Spanking (Paddles)
As said above, this is a great introduction to spanking. Using a paddle is not only a great way to explore your pleasurable pain but also a cheap way to explore your sexuality. With the wide surface area, it does limit where you can spank however, mainly looking at the ass. If you have a bubble butt to play with, this can be a great way to redden that up bum!
Our Recommendation
Fetish Fantasy Series Singapore Stinger III
Don’t let the wordy title put you off, this is a great simple toy to try out spanking for the first time. This is a greatly balanced wooden paddle that you or your partner can try out. With it being wooden and no synthetic resin, there is little chance of you getting an allergic reaction. There is a leather lanyard to come with it too. This lets you hang it from your wrist and slap your sub’s ass with a flick of your wrist. The sound of your wood slapping your man’s ass should get you in the mood, no?
Small Surface Area Spanking (Whips)
This is for more advanced users and this is where you need to exercise caution. The whips you can use can deliver more acute and exquisite pain but if not done properly, it can cause permanent damage. There are plenty of fetish classes you can take where you are taught how to whip properly. We would recommend learning this before trying it out on your submissive, you don’t want to lose an eye with a misplaced slash!
Our Recommendation
Rouge Leather Flogger w/Wooden Handle
This is a flogger that is a halfway house between a paddle and a whip. The handle is wooden with a leather loop to make sure you never lose your grip while having some BDSM fun. The flogger is made from high-quality leather, making sure that your smacks are felt with a smart. For more gentle play, this can also be used as a tickler to act as a balance of intense flogging. Have a cracking time!
