Hi fellow bottom kings and queens, you're probably the experts in this matter; this content is not for you, so you may sit, relax, and spill some tea. This post is for all the tops out there who are yet to experiment with the marvel that is a Prostate Orgasm, or as some people call it: a full-body orgasm.
Get ready for a full-body orgasm.
There are multiple ways to achieve orgasm: masturbating alone or with someone, of course having sex (oral, anal, frotting), using sex toys (and I'm not even talking yet about anal stimulation, but using a vibrator ring, for example) to quote everyone's favorite movie "Mean Girls": The limit does not exist. But suppose you think an orgasm is basically a religious experience. In that case, prepare to really touch the sky and travel at the speed of light (yes, "Don't Stop Me Now" by Queen is about climaxing) when you live through an orgasm from your ass.
Why is the prostate gland important?
Your prostate, AKA P-Spot, AKA Male G-Spot, is full of nerve endings which make it a very sensitive spot in your body. Stimulating your prostate can make you have potent orgasms, but you kind of need to know what you're doing. Sticking up your finger won't just do the trick; you need to do it at the right angle, with the proper technique, and use enough lube. Luckily for you, we have some tips that may help you achieve the big O.
Before we get to the tips, we need to clarify that you don't need a penis up your ass to have an anal orgasm, so all tops reading this can relax a little (seriously, what's with this fear of getting your ass stimulated?). According to Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a research fellow at the Kinsey Institute: Anyone with prostate can have an anal orgasm. Knowing this, you can breathe, read our tips, and get ready to have your mind blown.
Tips to have a fant-ass-tic orgasm
1. Learn where your prostate is.
How are you going to stimulate something if you don't know where it is, right? The prostate is a walnut-sized gland that is located underneath the bladder and in front of the rectum. If you insert a finger up your butt, you'll feel it just three inches into your ass. See? Is not that far away from you, and you're not that far away from that fantastic orgasm.
2. First, try it on your own.
We can suggest your first time experimenting with this should be on your own. This way, you don't have to worry about instructing someone or feeling comfortable; you just need to explore your own body's virgin territories (pun intended). If you experiment on your own, you can fully control the situation and discover every sensation on your own terms.
If you try it with someone else, push it to be with someone you fully trust and know will make you feel comfortable.
3. Try external and internal stimulation.
There are two ways of achieving a prostate orgasm: internally and externally. And yeah, you might be looking like the confused-lady meme, like: How can you do external stimulation if your prostate is inside your ass? Exclusive tops, fear no more because you can do it without even touching your asshole (Again, what's with this fear of acknowledging you can have pleasure from there?).
By massaging your perineum (you know, the place between your anus and balls), you can reach your prostate from the outside and stimulate it. Douse two fingers with lube (don't worry, you're not inserting them... yet), and repeatedly apply pressure on your perineum. The more sensitive and aroused you are, the easier it will be to get that big O. You can jerk your penis off to help you orgasm and even use sex toys to help you do the job.
Sadly, not everyone can climax solely from external prostate stimulation, but that's okay because it's not the only way. Internal orgasms imply the stimulation of your prostate with the help of a finger, a sex toy, or a penis... and enough lube. Still, we'll get to that soon enough.
4. Clean up before and after.
Going up the butt takes more preparation than you might think (ask any experienced bottom about it). Take a shower and douche your booty; you don't want your or anyone's finger touching poop in there. On the other hand, it's helpful to acknowledge that accidents can happen and that it's completely normal when butt play is involved (try to have a towel close).
Experts recommend showering and douching again after some anal play, so you can remove all lube and bacteria from your hands, sex toys, and body.
5. Get in the mood.
To relax your booty, you can try turning yourself on before starting. Choose your favorite video from men.com, listen or read some erotica to get yourself in a sexy mood, and begin to jerk off. You don't want to masturbate and rush to climax; you'll only do it to arouse yourself enough to be ready for some anal penetration.
Place your mind in a place where pleasure is the primary goal. You want it to feel hot, not like a medical examination... unless he is a hot doctor in a role-play situation or in your imagination. With the right mindset from the beginning, reaching that fantastic orgasm will be a piece of cake.
6. Use lots of lube.
Too much lube is never enough when you're inserting something up your butt, especially if it's your first time. Soak your index and middle finger in lube and slowly start to penetrate your anus with them; very slowly. Once they're inside you, move your fingers in a come [hither] motion; that way, you'll be directly massaging your prostate, and the sensation will invade your whole body.
Don't be afraid to use more lube amidst anal play if you're feeling friction or dryness. If you're using a silicone sex toy, avoid using silicone lubes since it can be hazardous.
7. Should you try a sex toy?
You can get yourself a prostate massager (no, that's not a person for hire) and help yourself achieve your big O even easier. A prostate massager is a sex toy specially designed for your butt and P-spot. There are several types with multiple shapes, functions, and vibration intensities. Some allow you to stimulate your P-spot form both inside and out; some even have hays to stimulate your penis too.
Find the one that best suits you and order it now!
8. Stimulate your penis and prostate simultaneously.
Beat that meat while you make the hither motion with your fingers up your ass until you feel that growing pleasure coming from deep inside of you. The sensation is different from the build-up of a penile orgasm (focused on your... well, dick). Once you start to feel like getting to the point of no return, let go of your penis and keep working on your P-Spot until you climax. Do this well, and you'll be able to say, "See? No hands!".
Don't be scared if you notice some fluid coming out of your ass. That's just mucus, and it's completely normal; as some Cardi B. fans would say, "That's a wet ass bussy." Your penis may also ejaculate even if you're not touching it
9. Aftercare is important.
If it's your first time having a prostate orgasm, you may need some time to process what just happened. An anal orgasm can feel like anything you've experienced before, so take some time to relax, breathe, and let your whole body just feel the sensations afterward. Honor what you feel with no shame.
Are you ready to have a prostate orgasm?
There's limited research on this topic, so the best way to learn how this feels is by experimenting with it yourself. So, if you really want to improve the way you experience sex and open yourself up to the chance of having multiple orgasms (yes, I'm talking about having multiple orgasms in a row). Follow these tips; you're ready.
There's the possibility that you don't achieve climax even if you do everything well. Daniel Saynt, founder and chief conspirator of The New Society for Wellness, says, "there's a vulnerability that comes into play when men are being penetrated... there may be lingering traumas or experiences which make the situation uncomfortable." Be mindful of this when doing it for the first time, and consider if you need to work on these mental roadblocks before you do anything else.
Saynt says, "Prostate orgasms will be subtle at first and foreign because it's new... Eventually, it feels more like a full-body sensation that radiates through the body. It feels like your entire body is orgasming". Suppose you're a top and open your mind to experience this. In that case, you'll be changing your relationship with your body for the rest of your life. You'll be understanding how a bottom feels when you're penetrating him.
Remember that you don't need to be a bottom to have pleasure from your marvelous prostate; try it now, thank me later.
